By: Amanda Anderson-Niles
Tamera Mowry and Tamar Braxton may both be married women, but where they differ is in their opinions on how single women should date successfully.
And their differences of opinions led to a very interesting conversation during a recent episode of “The Real.”
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I have to say I agree with Tamera. I always knew I wanted to get married and when I dated, I really treated it like I was just letting men audition to be my life partner. I made my intentions clear in the beginning with the men I dated, and whoever got nervous and made it known they weren’t sold on marriage never heard from me again.
It really does come down to age. When you’re in your early 20s, most of us are still in school and trying to find ourselves. Now when we get in our mid to late 20s, then we start to want something more. But that doesn’t mean I’m just out here sleeping around either. So yes, Team Tamar on this one.
Both them actually make sense though so I have to agree with both of them.
I thought the whole purpose of dating was to find the one even if marriage ain’t something you want. Everybody needs somebody.
Tamera is talking that common sense. You date to get married. Period.
I know I’m dating to get married but I don’t think every relationship I get in will lead to marriage. Tamar’s right. When you do that, you can easily settle for someone mediocre just because you think you have to. But I’m at that age when I ain’t got time to play. If you ain’t serious about me, you need to get the hell out my face.
I agree with Tamera.
This is interesting. When I met my now husband, we talked on the phone a lot for about 3-4 weeks. We went out on a date. Once we became intimate, MY rule was on deck. (Rule: if we are intimate and you call me the next day, you are my boyfriend. If you don’t call me, it was a booty call and we never have to talk anymore.) Well he called me 12 times the next day so he became my boyfriend and 6 months later he asked me to marry him, 14 years later we are still married and planning our 15 year vow renewal next year.
My mother always told me that when you are a boyfriend or girlfriend that the commitment never at that stage because you can still continue to date whomever you want and that the commitment is when he ask you to marry him. That means he is ready to build a life with you. Girlfriend and Boyfriend is only for the moment and you may not be the one or he may not be the one. It is just a title.