By: Taren Vaughan
Tamera Mowry-Housley and Tia Mowry-Hardrict were introduced to us as the lovable twins from the hit sitcom Sister, Sister. And even after the show was over, both Tamera and Tia have continued to find success in the entertainment business, Tia taking on the role as Melanie on BET’s The Game, a gig she gave up to focus on the reality TV show that she has with her sister. As far as their families go, both have much to celebrate, becoming mothers and wives. With all the joyous things going on with them, Tamera however found herself a target of racism on Twitter for allegedly shading Vice President Joe Biden. That incident has not at all stopped Tamera from sharing her thoughts on controversial topics. In an interview that she did with Ebony Magazine alongside twin sister Tia, Tamera was questioned about her marriage to her husband Fox News Correspondent Adam Housley and some of the things they practiced before they got married. Tamera responded by saying that they did not shack up before marriage or have sex before they tied the knot, their faith playing a huge role in the decisions that they made:
EBONY: Tamera you mentioned in an interview that you and [your husband, Fox News Correspondent] Adam [Housley] not only didn’t live together, you also remained celibate until you married last year. Why did you choose that route and do you have any advice for your fans who are trying to follow in your footsteps in that regard?
TAMERA: Adam and I took a break from dating for about a year. We missed each other and something was drawing us together, but more than that, we wanted to make sure that this relationship was what God wanted for our lives. [In order to know] if we are meant to be together, we said, ‘it’s got to be God’s way and not our way.’ We didn’t want to half-step anything [or have clouded judgment]. So our right way was the way we felt God wanted us to do it which was being celibate. We said to God, ‘This is who we are, I know you take us as we are, our faults, our fears, our joys, our hope as a couple and have your way.’
I tried the ‘missionary dating’ [in the past] where you have a person with a great heart who you think is perfect and wonderful except for this one important area that you try to change. That’s unfair to that person. That person needs to be who they are 100%. And it’s unfair to you. You don’t want to drag somebody to church with you. My husband wakes up on Sundays and says ‘Hey, are we going to church today?’ It just makes [waiting] all worthwhile. I dated guys who did not share those same beliefs and it was hard. There were many nights of heartbreak and crying, and that’s not what God wants for us.
But if you want to be celibate, definitely don’t live together [laughs] because that makes it harder for you. Have people around you to keep you accountable! Surround yourself with people who support your decision, because they’re only going to root you on. Make that covenant with God and with each other and just let go. God is going to see you through the difficult times. Whenever you’re feeling discouraged just pray together. Like I said it’s not going to be a perfect journey, but you just have to keep God the center of your relationship.
Do you think that a couple should not live together at all until they are married? And should they remain celibate until they make things official?
Speak on it.