By: Amanda Anderson-Niles
Reality star Porsha Stewart is clearly still a newbie to Real Housewives of Atlanta, but although she didn’t get into too many beefs during her first season, it would be her marriage that would make headlines post the ending of season five. On camera, fans of the show watched her interaction with husband Kordell, and to many it just seemed like he was just too controlling. Porsha defended her marriage in numerous interviews and claimed she didn’t believe Kordell was controlling, but in the end Kordell would be the one to end the marriage when he filed for divorce behind her back. Porsha made it clear through her spokesperson that she felt blindsided by the filing considering Kordell asked her to stay with him and work on their marriage. The reality star has given her very first interview since the divorce filing, and she tells Andy Cohen and Vivica Fox on Watch What Happens Live that she found out about the divorce on Twitter and they were actually in the house together the moment the news broke:
“When I found out about the divorce, it was absolutely a surprise. I was laying in the bed and I Tweeted ‘today is the first day of the rest of your life’. I put the phone down and took a little nap and I looked back at my phone and my sister was calling me over and over. She said ‘have you heard’ and I’m like ‘hear what?’.”
Porsha says she went to the other room of the house that Kordell was in at the time and attempted to ask him if he had filed for divorce:
“Long story short, I was very disappointed and let down. When I got married, I meant it for life. I always said I’d never get a divorce unless he cheated on me or something like that. I was heartbroken. Like I am still right now. I’m a brave woman and I know I’m living this out in front of the world because of the way it was done.”
Porsha also confirmed that she and Kordell are still living together but she has plenty of relatives and close friends near by to spend time with when she needs to get away:
“I’m from Atlanta. I have friends and family, so I spend time away, I spend time at home. It’s a difficult, difficult situation right now. It’s something I did not want at all. ” Porsha reveals that she had asked Kordell if they could try to work things out with counseling. She says “what you saw at the reunion was a wife trying one last try. When you are married, I feel like you have to put your 150% in to your marriage, no matter what. And if it doesn’t work, you need to be able to walk away and say ‘I tried’. It ain’t always gonna be easy, it ain’t always gonna be a happy situation. But when you have made a vow to that man and that child (Kordell’s son) you have at home, you owe them that. So I feel like at the end of the day it was just a betrayal that I suffered from and that’s something I’m going to have to move on with, but at least I know that I put in my best at the end of the day.”
She also adds that they are not on speaking terms and she no longer fulfills her wifely duties such as cooking:
“I didn’t say we speak and I didn’t say I’m cookin’. Ain’t no eggs and bacon and ham hocks no mo’.”
In addition to talking about being blindsided by the divorce, Porsha said that she doesn’t feel like the show was the cause of her divorce. She even revealed that she believes their problems started way before RHOA.
Check out the clip below:
It’s so tacky how Kordell went about doing all of this. Karma will be coming for him.
Agreed!
Damn! Twitter though? Man that’s cold as hell! Kordell is pretty low down for that.
Well I’m glad she realizes they had problems before they did the show. It’s just a lesson learned. It was hard to watch her defending him last night on the reunion and even harder hearing her admit what we already knew which was she wants to be more independent like her cast mates.
Kordell is such a dirty person for this. I’m so glad it’s over and she seems to now be okay with that. It’s best for her anyway.
Twitter? The world has really gone to hell…
Go Porsha! Kordell is such a mean-spirited punk. He meant to hurt her by not telling her that it was over.
It’s a sad day when grown folks communicate more on Twitter than face to face now. If he wanted to leave, fine but why couldn’t he have at least told her he was doing it? That’s what makes me give him the side eye. He seems like a very cold person. Even on the show there were times I really felt he treated Porsha pretty terribly. To give your spouse ultimatums is pretty low down.
Right! She handled it way better than me, because my headlines would have read “RHOA STAR JAILED AFTER HEARING ABOUT HER IMPENDING DIVORCE VIA TWITTER”
We’d be like Clash of the Titians up in that house!
LMAO! Right! I’d act up too!
Welp, it’s over! And that’s a good thing. If she wants to be more like the other women on the show and have a career, it just wasn’t going to work with Kordell anyway. Most importantly, people change! You can marry someone and they can turn around and say they want to do something different than what you agreed on when you got married. But that doesn’t mean you leave them. If that’s Kordell’s perception of what marriage is (a relationship with conditions), she’s better off without him.
I so love this comment. Especially the part about him thinking a marriage should be based on terms. That’s why I feel she’s better off single at this point. You shouldn’t marry people who would leave you if you change your mind about having a career. That’s such a petty reason to file for divorce.
Man he sucks. LOL.
Andy is so damn messy. Once she told him they had a prenup, he told her to stay in that house. LOL! Love it.
Right!
AND Andy for the clarification… “Crazy story… you’re living together????” LOL
I’m in disbelief too Andy! HA
AND…S/O to Vivica for the peanut gallery commentary! LOL! I was saying the same exact things when I heard this interview!
If they have didn’t have a prenup AND he told her to stop working, I think he’s going to have to fork over that spousal support. Porsha needs to be smart about that money she’s going to get and start a new life on her own terms.
Agree….& good luck to her
He manage to boss her around and at like he was father on Housewives of Atlanta , he had a lot to say on there then when it comes to something as important as that he took the punks way out. How dare you be in the house and not tell her that he wanted a divorce to her face like a real man….oh that’s right he’s not. Porsha you defended him and declared your love for him in front of the world and he tried his best to destroy you in front of the world. Don’t leave your house get everything that you can from the whimp and ask Andy Cohen to resign your contract, and don’t worry the right man will find you…. stay strong pretty lady and you are going to have everything that you thought had with the childish boy and more.
Kordell acts just like a QUEEN!
Acting up is what Kordell wanted her to do, so he could call the police on her and continue to be the b-tch he is. What purpose would it had served for her to act a fool and cause herself trouble and shame?! She did the right thing by letting him take all the flack from his messiness. And why should she leave her home? It’s as much hers as it is his. If he wants to go let him pack his raggedy duffle bags and split! She has every right to stay in her home until a court says otherwise. Bottom line, this was a power play by Kordell, because Porsha grew and he didn’t!
I am sorry that her jerk husband wasn’t man enough to face her and tell her that had file for divorce, but in the long run he showed her that he’s a wife not a husband……