Writer Slams Amber Rose's New Book


Writer Slams Amber Rose’s New Book

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Refinery 29 writer Vanessa Golembewski writes the following:

But the truth is, I struggled with her book. Much of it reads like “how to live your life to please men.” Her advice attempts to dress itself up in feminism, only to cave in on itself. For a book that purports to use a no-judgment policy as its foundation, How to Be a Bad B*tch comes off as extremely judgmental. Small moments of advice that are actually interesting — like the importance of having a vision for yourself and experimenting with your look — feel insincere. If a “bad b*tch” is supposed to be a cooler word for feminism — perhaps a nod to the fact that some women have distanced themselves from the f-word — it’s lost in pages that might as well have been ripped out of a retrograde women’s magazine.

The writer pulls a few quotes from the book she finds problematic:

“[Guys like] girls who can hang with the guys — and, sad but true — play video games — but who can still be very feminine.”

The “cool girl” stereotype needs to end. It may be true that there’s an idealized version of a woman who can chug beers on football Sundays but then fit perfectly into a size 4 dress. But we all saw Gone Girl. It ends well for no one. Why not a “just do you” mantra?


[Guys like] girls who don’t get jealous or weird.”

What does that even mean? Keeping jealousy in check could be read as a sign of maturity (for both sexes), but not in this context. Here, it’s listed as one of the bullet points under “Things Guys Like” and is more about pandering to your partner’s feelings than staying true to your own.


“Men cheat, period. Maybe he hasn’t cheated on you yet, but there will come a time when most men do seek fulfillment outside the relationship, whether it’s with work, the gym, or another woman. Unfortunately, it’s often with another woman, as an estimated 25-75% of married men cheat.”

Well, for starters, this statistic doesn’t make sense, nor is it backed up by a source. And it reads as a scare tactic. Newsflash! Not all men cheat, and arguing otherwise is dishonest. Plus, painting a picture that any member of the male species is never going to be as fully invested in a relationship as a female automatically puts the woman in an inferior position. Everyone loses.


What are your thoughts?

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  1. Anonymous

    October 29, 2015 at 4:51 pm

    The real question is why is anyone paying good money to get advice from Amber Rose? She’s nice to look at but she’s not a real feminist and she’s already proven that she can’t keep a man. So she can’t give advice about men or feminism because I mean she doesn’t know much about either.

    • Twirl

      October 29, 2015 at 10:19 pm


  2. Peachy

    October 29, 2015 at 4:52 pm

    I understand where the writer is coming from but it’s not that serious. Let Amber make her coins. She’s not hurting anyone.

    • Twirl

      October 29, 2015 at 10:20 pm

      Right. Nobody is forcing anyone to buy this book. She’s really mad too.

  3. Im Sayin

    October 29, 2015 at 4:55 pm

    I agree 100%. Amber’s whole image just like Blac Chyna’s just screams male validation. That’s why I didn’t take her feminism crap seriously and never will.

    • Yeah I Said It!

      October 29, 2015 at 5:07 pm

      The irony of it all. Kim’s whole career lives off of multiple d-cks. Without male validation she’d still be Paris Hilton’s servant.

      • Twirl

        October 29, 2015 at 10:20 pm


  4. Queen

    October 29, 2015 at 4:57 pm

    They make some good points but I read the rest of it and some of it is just nitpicking. The writer is probably pro Kardashians anyway.

  5. Ms. Jackson

    October 29, 2015 at 5:03 pm

    I never doubted that the book was some bulls-t but I can’t take a writer seriously when they defended Kim’s slutty a-s. And that’s exactly what this b-tch did. She doesn’t have a problem with the book. She’s a f-cking Kim stan and she’s still salty Amber pulled Kim’s card on Twitter when Khlogre tried it. F-ck that.

    • Yeah I Said It!

      October 29, 2015 at 5:08 pm

      Im Sayin probably wrote it. LOL.

  6. Get Busy

    October 29, 2015 at 5:16 pm

    Meh, it’s of odd how some women miss the entire point of feminism and continue to judge other women so harshly.

  7. Anonymous

    October 29, 2015 at 5:42 pm

    If people are dumb enough to buy this book then why not?

  8. Troll

    October 29, 2015 at 5:49 pm

    Amber is just getting in where she fits in. At least she’s actually out here trying to get her own money and not leech off some man like Chyna.

  9. Anonymous

    October 29, 2015 at 7:09 pm

    lmao damn she went in too

  10. Mona

    October 29, 2015 at 8:26 pm

    I can’t disagree with this writer.

  11. Twirl

    October 29, 2015 at 10:21 pm

    It’s just not that deep to me. Amber has fans who want to support this book. Stop hating.

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