Writer Slams Amber Rose’s New Book
Refinery 29 writer Vanessa Golembewski writes the following:
But the truth is, I struggled with her book. Much of it reads like “how to live your life to please men.” Her advice attempts to dress itself up in feminism, only to cave in on itself. For a book that purports to use a no-judgment policy as its foundation, How to Be a Bad B*tch comes off as extremely judgmental. Small moments of advice that are actually interesting — like the importance of having a vision for yourself and experimenting with your look — feel insincere. If a “bad b*tch” is supposed to be a cooler word for feminism — perhaps a nod to the fact that some women have distanced themselves from the f-word — it’s lost in pages that might as well have been ripped out of a retrograde women’s magazine.
The writer pulls a few quotes from the book she finds problematic:
“[Guys like] girls who can hang with the guys — and, sad but true — play video games — but who can still be very feminine.”
The “cool girl” stereotype needs to end. It may be true that there’s an idealized version of a woman who can chug beers on football Sundays but then fit perfectly into a size 4 dress. But we all saw Gone Girl. It ends well for no one. Why not a “just do you” mantra?
[Guys like] girls who don’t get jealous or weird.”
What does that even mean? Keeping jealousy in check could be read as a sign of maturity (for both sexes), but not in this context. Here, it’s listed as one of the bullet points under “Things Guys Like” and is more about pandering to your partner’s feelings than staying true to your own.
“Men cheat, period. Maybe he hasn’t cheated on you yet, but there will come a time when most men do seek fulfillment outside the relationship, whether it’s with work, the gym, or another woman. Unfortunately, it’s often with another woman, as an estimated 25-75% of married men cheat.”
Well, for starters, this statistic doesn’t make sense, nor is it backed up by a source. And it reads as a scare tactic. Newsflash! Not all men cheat, and arguing otherwise is dishonest. Plus, painting a picture that any member of the male species is never going to be as fully invested in a relationship as a female automatically puts the woman in an inferior position. Everyone loses.
What are your thoughts?