Angela Bassett Has a Different Perspective

Women often get mixed messages about how to conquer their careers and love lives, and often society encourages women to be submissive and to abstain from s*x as much as possible to have power.

But Angela Bassett thinks real power isn’t in not having s*x.

Here’s an excerpt of her interview with Haute Living:

“We had a screening [of the film] the other day, and people were asking, ‘Using s*x…is that viable? Isn’t that a negative for these women?’” Bassett recalls very clearly. “Growing up, I learned that s*x was one of three basic needs of human kind. It’s not just a basic need for men—it’s a basic need for women as well.”

Although the Oscar nominee hasn’t used s*x to get her way (for which her husband could be eternally grateful), she’s not against it, either. “I would be an ad- vocate; I would use it,” Bassett says slowly, in a voice that drips like honey. “I’m a married woman, [and I know] that you can’t get close until you talk things out, get some clarity. I never go to bed angry.”

Warming to her theme, she continues, “Men are usually engaged through their eyes, while women are engaged through their minds and hearts. We need to come to some common ground before we can get passionate; men can get down no matter what,” she adds with a throaty giggle. “They don’t even have to like you.”

That said, she doesn’t believe that a woman’s greatest power is withholding sex. “It’s her ability to love, to influence, to bring insight to a situation,” she maintains.

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20 comments

  1. I agree. Too many women are walking around here withholding from what is natural because misogynists have convinced them that they can only have power if they don’t have s-x. And it’s BS. You exercise your power by deciding not to give sexist idiots the time of day. Only date men who aren’t concerned with trying to tell women how to be women.

    1. You’re reaching. She’s simply saying sometimes as a married woman, she’s not against using s-x to get what she wants out of her husband. Now clearly Angie has her own career and money so she’s not saying what Amber was saying. Amber was out here telling women to use s-x to get careers. Angie is saying sometimes s-x can keep her husband happy and she can therefore get what she wants too.

    2. I don’t know why people got so mad at Amber. Women have been using s-x to get ahead and sucker men for centuries. Ain’t that what housewives do?

  2. She can do no wrong in my book. And I think once a woman gets in her 40s, we stop giving a damn. We don’t feel like we have to be a certain way anymore.

  3. Love Angela to death , she’s one of the best acting and aging women on Earth ! I agree 100% , us women have to stop being controlled by double standards . S-x is a vital part of humanity , it’s healthy if you have a healthy body ! I love s-x , it doesn’t equate to love for my Aqarius mind though . But , I don’t do the sleep around with random men thing , it’s too deadly to play those games . I have to love someone to sleep with them as a grown woman , but it won’t get you far with me ,as I require mental stimulation .I’ve been in my relationship 12 years , I’m in controll of my body , s-x is essential for a balanced connection and great for healthy bodies .I see it as a vitamin , I can skip it , but it’s great for me . People with great and healthy s-x lives know what I mean . 😉

  4. I do sometimes question why we are taught our power lies in not being s-xual. And if we are s-xual, completely making it about the man’s pleasure and not our own.

  5. I see no problem with what she said. Don’t overthink it people. And comparing her to Amber Rose?! Y’all are wrong for that!

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