Toya Bush Harris hates that Dr. Jackie is going through such a rough patch in her marriage publicly, but she does feel like some of Jackie’s earlier actions led to Curtis Walters having an affair.
She tells The Grio:
On the show, it seemed Toya was blaming Jackie’s busy schedule and refusal to make more time for her husband as the reason for his infidelity, and insisted affair stemmed from a place of loneliness.
“Every season he would go on national TV crying and begging for her attention and personal time. At the end of the day if you made a vow to this man, you’re supposed to be there. You know what it takes to nourish your marriage,” she says. “I would watch Jackie take vacations to France. I would never go to Paris without my husband. You have to make a certain decision as a wife to guard your marriage.”
According to Toya, it’s the woman’s responsibility to heed her husband’s needs, whether or not she’s the breadwinner.
“Jackie is a woman of God. Let’s be clear. In the Bible it doesn’t say anything about who makes the most money. It talks about the man being the head and pretty much we are the neck,” she says. “Your marriage is supposed to be the most important thing in your life. If making money is keeping you from being there for your spouse, there’s a problem.”
In Toya’s opinion, Jackie’s inability to slow down and hear her husband’s requests made it easy for him to step out.
“As soon as one person checks out or doesn’t hear or respect the other one or make changes for the other one, it’s done. They will go and find someone to give the little thing that they’re missing.”
Toya also tells the publication that despite all of this, Dr. Jackie did not deserve to be cheated on.
She annoys me.
But her version of marriage put her family in debt and owing the IRS. Maybe she needs to realize that a man will cheat regardless of how attentive the woman is.
Curtis shouldn’t have cheated but Toya is pretty much right. Jackie chose to put all her time into working. Just because you’re doctor doesn’t mean you get to neglect your spouse. Jackie couldn’t get over not be able to have nor adopt children. They both was missing something, yet only one spoke up about it.
she should not be publicly talking about anyone’s marriage because if it comes out that her husband’s cheating on her she’s going to look real stupid! and the difference between her and Jackie is she’s not in the position to walk away her husband is in debt up to his eyeballs he can’t even buy you a house! so you will have no choice but to save face and stay because you ain’t got a pot to piss in or window to throw it out of! Cuz everything that you live for and worship is within your husband. Yes I’m sure he was lonely, yes he clearly stated to her that he needed more time with her, but the right way to do things is to sit her down and tell her what you’re really feeling even if it’s feelings someone else, get out of your situation first and then see other people, you don’t cheat and humiliate her when you know this woman whole life is pretty much on TV. I could never forgive someone who humiliated me that way that’s going to sit on that woman’s heart for a very long time to come, and she’s been through a lot mentally and physically and she does not deserve that. When she stated on the shows reunion that if she doesn’t make him happy that he deserves to be happy with someone else, I’m pretty sure she meant that you need to leave me first then go and be happy with someone else not to go cheat.