Toya Bush Harris hates that Dr. Jackie is going through such a rough patch in her marriage publicly, but she does feel like some of Jackie’s earlier actions led to Curtis Walters having an affair.
She tells The Grio:
On the show, it seemed Toya was blaming Jackie’s busy schedule and refusal to make more time for her husband as the reason for his infidelity, and insisted affair stemmed from a place of loneliness.
“Every season he would go on national TV crying and begging for her attention and personal time. At the end of the day if you made a vow to this man, you’re supposed to be there. You know what it takes to nourish your marriage,” she says. “I would watch Jackie take vacations to France. I would never go to Paris without my husband. You have to make a certain decision as a wife to guard your marriage.”
According to Toya, it’s the woman’s responsibility to heed her husband’s needs, whether or not she’s the breadwinner.
“Jackie is a woman of God. Let’s be clear. In the Bible it doesn’t say anything about who makes the most money. It talks about the man being the head and pretty much we are the neck,” she says. “Your marriage is supposed to be the most important thing in your life. If making money is keeping you from being there for your spouse, there’s a problem.”
In Toya’s opinion, Jackie’s inability to slow down and hear her husband’s requests made it easy for him to step out.
“As soon as one person checks out or doesn’t hear or respect the other one or make changes for the other one, it’s done. They will go and find someone to give the little thing that they’re missing.”
Toya also tells the publication that despite all of this, Dr. Jackie did not deserve to be cheated on.