‘Fix My Life’ Recap: Memphitz Confirms Drug Use, Talks K. Michelle & Father’s Murder
Iyanla meets Memphitz’s mom Francis.
The episode begins with Iyanla talking to Francis. Francis is Mickey’s mother. She wrote Iyanla about her son Mickey AKA Memphitz.
She’s worried about her son due to the effects of the loss of her husband. In 2001, her husband was brutally murdered by a member of the Ku Klux Klan. Memphitz was 19 at the time of the murder. The murder was so bad, Francis couldn’t recover her husband’s body.
When she tells Iyanla that she didn’t have any of their children at the services, including Memphitz, Iyanla says this was a mistake, because they didn’t get a chance to heal.
Francis then says now, he is not around due to the mistakes he made in the music industry. She’s afraid he could really hurt himself.
“Today, he is like a wounded animal that has been cast aside.” – Francis
Iyanla says Mickey Jr hides the pain of Mickey Sr’s death behind his Memphitz moniker.
Memphitz blames K. Michelle for his struggles.
Next, Iyanla meets with Francis’ son Memphitz. He says he lost a bit of himself when Mickey Sr was murdered. Iyanla presses the fact that Mickey Sr was not just murdered, but brutally murdered.
First, Iyanla tells him his mom Francis is worried about him.
“Your mom thinks you’re gonna die.” – Iyanla
Memphitz says his father’s murder really hurt. He called his dad, Mickey Sr., his coach. When Mickey Sr. died, Memphitz says he lost himself. To keep himself from thinking about the murder, he uses weed, coke and pills to not think about it.
During the conversation, Memphitz says he feels the world gave up on him. He says he was “lied on” by his ex-girlfriend, K. Michelle.
“My [bleep] ruined my life because I simply didn’t want to be with this person.” – Memphitz
At this point, Iyanla feels Memphitz is using what happened in his past, including everything involving K. Michelle, to not take responsibility for his victimization.
Later on, Iyanla says he only wants the money and recognition from the music. She asks what grade he would give himself for everything that has happened recently. He says, “B,” which is a far cry from the “F” Iyanla would give him.
Memphitz must dig himself out of holes he dug by himself.
Next, Iyanla brings him to a dirt area to dig two holes. Iyanla then tells him that the F represents the word facade.
As he digs the holes, Memphitz still blames K. Michelle and everyone else for his failures. However, Iyanla isn’t here for it. She feels this blaming and his drug use, referring to it as, “Smoking happy flowers,” are just excuses.
“No one is responsible for the hole you find yourself in!” – Iyanla
Memphitz is then given cards that have words written on them that start with the letter “F.”
Once the holes are dug, he steps into them, and Iyanla fills them up with the dirt dug out.
She asks him, “Who dug those holes?’
Iyanla finally walks off to give him time to think about things. She also took the shovel with her, because “she doesn’t trust him.”
Memphitz’s sister Candice Deals with pain from their father’s murder differently.
Meanwhile, Iyanla sits with Francis, his cousin Nikayla and sister Candice.
Francis tells Iyanla they had the memorial service for Mickey Sr. 3 years after his murder. Memphitz showed up, but he nor his sister never had a chance to deal with the pain.
Iyanla says he is using drugs and his other issues to avoid dealing with the pain.
During the conversation, Memphitz’s sister Candice says she hasn’t dealt with the pain yet. Iyanla tells his sister that she needs to deal with the pain or else it will continue to eat at her.
Later on, Iyanla had Memphitz dug himself out the holes with his bare hands. Iyanla says this represents how he can dig himself out of the issues he is in. But first, he must deal with the pain of his father’s murder.
When they walk in, Candice begins to break down dealing, saying she wants to leave. Memphitz consoles her, and Iyanla tells him it’s okay to feel the way she does.
Candice still tries to run away but Iyanla won’t let her go.
“Y’all are runners. She’s trying to run away. I can’t let you out of here.” – Iyanla
Candice is taken outside for a one on one chat by Iyanla. Eventually, Candice breaks down crying in Iyanla’s arms.
Iyanla gives Francis advice about “raising” Memphitz.
The next day, Iyanla starts her day with Francis. Francis says she’s been overprotective of her children after the murder. Iyanla tells Francis that she has to let him go.
“You have to let him fall.” – Iyanla
Iyanla explains to Francis that she has to be more of an advisory person for him, giving Memphitz insight, not opinions. She also tells Francis that Memphitz should go to rehab.
Candice and Memphitz are confronted by their pain.
Next, Iyanla meets with Memphitz. During their conversation, Iyanla unveils a wreath with Mickey Sr’s picture in it. Iyanla wants him to talk to the memorial wreath, but Memphitz just begins to break down.
“Start with, ‘I miss you so much.’ Start with that.” – Iyanla
He says it. Next, Iyanla brings Candice in to the same room. Memphitz says he misses talking to his dad. He’s also still mad about the murder, and revealed he uses drugs to forget about his dad.
“I take drugs to forget about you.” – Memphitz
Iyanla asks him what would his dad say if he was still here.
“He would say get up.” – Memphitz
Next, Iyanla has Candice and Mickey go out into the courtyard to cry it out. Iyanla meets them out there later and makes Memphitz talk the pain out. She then has Memphitz apologize to himself and his father for not allowing himself to feel pain and anger.
She asks Candice if she feels Mickey Sr. is proud of them, and she says yes.
Memphitz is given a chance at rehab.
Lastly, Iyanla brings in Dr Brooks who is a director of Tangu Rehabilitation and Treatment Center. She tells him he’s an addict. The director wants to help him deal with the pain without the drugs or alcohol.
“I want to give you another F. Freedom.” – Iyanla
He’s then invited to a 30 day in-house rehab facility. Memphitz agrees to go.
“Weed isn’t gonna kill me. But… Probably killing myself on the insides.” – Memphitz
After the show, however, Memphitz had not made official plans to go to the recap facility.
They continue to hold his spot.
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