By: Amanda Anderson-Niles
Everyone has something to say on the recent confirmation regarding Porsha and Kordell Stewart’s impending divorce. For some people, the news was a total shock; but for others, including fellow RHOA NeNe Leakes, the news isn’t a shock at all, and was pretty much expected. The couple became a target of criticism when Porsha suggested she needed to ask permission to have company over the house while Kordell wasn’t home and things only escalated when she told her cast mates that she couldn’t go to the “Gentlemen Club” with them in Vegas because her husband wouldn’t approve. This made many begin to speculate that Kordell is too controlling of Porsha and NeNe even suggested she felt Kordell treated Porsha more like a child than a spouse. The divorce was still somewhat a shocker to Porsha because she claims she wanted to file for divorce first, but Kordell asked her to stay and work on the marriage.
While Kordell has been pretty silent on while he filed the paperwork, allegedly his friends have already started talking about the split. A source tells All About The Real Housewives that Kordell wanted out when it appeared the other housewives were starting to get inside Porsha’s head:
“Before Kordell and Porsha got married, Kordell told Porsha that he wanted a wife who will be a stay at home mother while he works and pays the bills. Porsha was completely down with it and kept pushing the marriage. When RHOA signed Porsha, Kordell only agreed for the couple to be on it to support his wife but he didn’t like the idea and got annoyed with Porsha who all of a sudden wanted a ‘career.’”
Interestingly enough, the source also suggests that the real deal breaker was Porsha’s difficulty in getting pregnant:
“Porsha tried her best to make it like things were perfect. She constantly took photos of the two but Kordell was not happy. He hated how he was portrayed on the show and hated that his personal life was now out there. The breaking point was that Porsha couldn’t get pregnant. They tried and it wasn’t happening. Kordell would have stayed with Porsha despite her not being able to get pregnant but the show caused so many fights that it wasn’t even worth it and the marriage couldn’t be fixed on his end.”
Kordell’s friends aren’t the only ones talking. The other day, Wendy Williams had some advice for Porsha. The talk show host says she knew the spilt would come, but thinks Porsha could do better anyway:
“I love you Porsha and I am so team you. Your life is going to be better now that he’s dumped you. If you can understand and make lemonade out of lemons, this man was too controlling and you, my friend, are too vulnerable and naive for a 31-year-old woman. You behave like you’re 21-years-old and that is not practical at 31. Not in 2013.
“Here’s my advice to you. First of all, you don’t need marriage anytime soon. What you need to do is get two years of spousal support, because you have no children with him. She was married, for two years, to Kordell and he’s the one, by what we see (on the show), who told you to be a stay at home wife, with no career or anything. You get your two years of spousal support income, leave the ring, the big house and all that furniture. That’s how you hurt a man, by not wanting any of the crap.
“Take your spousal support and you’re going to live within your means. Get a one bedroom apartment in some high-rise in Atlanta. And more importantly, call Andy Cohen at Bravo and sign up for two more years of housewives. You’re going to execute like Porsha In The City. We want to see you date, we want to see you grow up and we want to see you go to either a therapist or a life coach.”
For once I actually agree with Wendy. Porsha has a bright future ahead of her without Kordell.
So true…..Wendy’s dead on this one…..
No worries, he was a controlling QUEEN anyway. She should stay on RHOA and start dating some fine men who are heterosexual and aren’t so controlling of the women they date.
Yes, exactly what I was thinking and on top of that come out with a dress line or something make that money gain from a loss.
Yeah I think he’s gay. Those rumors have been following him for YEARS. She dodged a bullet. She didn’t have his kids and her stock just went up from RHOA. Win, win all around in my book.
#TeamPorsha It looks like a negative but it’s really not. I didn’t like the way Kordell talked to her. He treated her like his kid. That’s not the kind of marriage I’d want for any woman.
I am still shaking my head because he just went to the courthouse behind her back after asking her to stay and work things out. Dude has issues.
It’s all a learning experience. Maybe now Porsha sees that it’s not a good idea to give a man complete control. In the end, men will leave a woman that they feel can’t function without them. Deep down inside, a man has more respect for a woman who has her own. The Deion Sanders/Pilar situation is a perfect example of that. That “The Man is the head of My Household” sh-t has a lot of women in a very shaky situation. I wouldn’t recommend it.
Porsha will have a new man, a second season of RHOA, and some kind of big career announcement soon. Watch.
Wendy gave some very good advice. I hope Porsha considers it.
Oh please believe Porsha is doing another season of RHOA now. Oh, and she’ll get serious about her singing career and whatever else she wanted to do. I do feel this is a wake up call for her and she’ll be thankful for it all later. That’s just how it works.
Honestly, the quotes from the friend is more confirmation that Kordell is NOT marriage material. He’s not supportive, he gives conditional love, and he was willing to bounce because she was having problems conceiving. What kind of man is that? Sounds like a selfish one who should have never gotten married.
THIS!
YES. He’s so weak for that.
Kordell sounds like a real selfish douche bag. Viv is right, people who only have conditional love to offer should not get married! If Porsha decided to change her mind and wanted a career…why is that grounds for a divorce? This is the most self-asorbed crap I’ve read in a long time. People just have no respect for marriage anymore.
This.
AND THIS!
I honestly wish Porsha the best, but I don’t think she should mourn this divorce for too long. The man sucked. Period.
Great advice. I hope she takes it.
YES WENDY! Can’t stand her most of the time, but this is great advice.
Ugh. Kordell is such a loser for this. He’s not supportive at all. I’m glad it’s over.
SMH. She can do so much better.
He’s a trip. It’s apparent that Porsha ain’t the only one that RHOA and critics get in her head. Any “man” who doesn’t support his woman having a mind & life of her own is no man at all! And to want to leave someone because they are having problems getting pregnant? I wish men could get pregnant just one time so they could know first hand all the challenges women go thru to bring these children into the world. I hope Porsha finds a real man that will love and support her with her goals and dreams.
It’s a blessing she couldn’t get pregnant. Perhaps God denied that because he’s not the one for her. Be glad. Aint nothing worse than having kids with a b*$%h acting a$$ dude! She can walk away and not have to deal with him anymore! She’ll be alright.
I just think divorce is sad with or without children…Also, she stated she liked that he had old fashioned values. That’s what she took on and loved him for it,,just because someone else doesnt like his approach does not mean it’s wrong and that they shouldn’t be together.