By: Amanda Anderson-Niles
Actress Jada Pinkett Smith and her husband Will Smith have been coined as a symbol of real black love and remain one of the most successful marriages in Hollywood. However, that doesn’t mean the couple isn’t a favorite target of the tabloids and ongoing speculation. Will and Jada are always rumored to be heading for divorce, and if that’s not the current rumors being pushed out in the tabloids, the couple is always rumored to be having an open marriage. Jada Pinkett Smith recently sat down with HuffPost Live and attempted to address the rumors. Unfortunately for Jada, the media took her comments to mean that she and Will do indeed have an open marriage. And that’s because so many of the media outlets left out the beginning of her comment in which she flat-out said no when asked if they had an open marriage. How convenient. Anyway, here’s what she told HuffPost Live when asked if the marriage is an open one:
“No. I think that people will get the idea because Will and I are very relaxed with one another. And I think because of the way I answered questions, ‘Girl you know, what would you do?…How do you deal with other women?’ And my answer is, I’ve always told Will, ‘You can do whatever you want as long as you can look at yourself in the mirror and be okay.’ Because at the end of the day, Will is his own man. I’m here as his partner, but he is his own man. He has to decide who he wants to be and that’s not for me to do for him. Or vice versa.”
Jada is of course frustrated that her comments have been taken as confirmation for something she says just isn’t true, so the actress took to her Facebook page to slam the rumors. She writes:
The statement I made in regard to, “Will can do whatever he wants,” has illuminated the need to discuss the relationship between trust and love and how they co-exist.
Do we believe loving someone means owning them? Do we believe that ownership is the reason someone should “behave”? Do we believe that all the expectations, conditions, and underlying threats of “you better act right or else” keep one honest and true? Do we believe that we can have meaningful relationships with people who have not defined nor live by the integrity of his or her higher self? What of unconditional love? Or does love look like, feel like, and operate as enslavement? Do we believe that the more control we put on someone the safer we are? What of TRUST and LOVE?
Should we be married to individuals who can not be responsible for themselves and their families within their freedom? Should we be in relationships with individuals who we can not entrust to their own values, integrity, and LOVE…for us???
Here is how I will change my statement…Will and I BOTH can do WHATEVER we want, because we TRUST each other to do so. This does NOT mean we have an open relationship…this means we have a GROWN one.
I honestly understood what she said the first time she said it. She’s basically saying she has trust in her marriage. She trusts her husband. Good for her! People just need to believe the worst about these two because they are bitter they have lasted so long. Their marriage is their business and she doesn’t have to keep explaining it to people.
I want Jada to stop writing these long essays on Facebook. People don’t care what you say or deny, they will always believe what they want to. Just stop paying them any mind.
LOL. She needs to accept people will always think they have an open marriage. Why, well because they have been together all these years and people need to think they have some kind of flaw that is keeping them together. People just don’t think people can be monogamous and stay married. Bitterness does that to people.
Will please get your wife off Facebook. She needs to stop explaining herself to STRANGERS.
It’s time for Jada to ignore the critics. She’s making herself look foolish about this. No matter what she says, people will always think they have an open marriage. And they need to so they can feel better about their own lives. Bless their miserable hearts.
In a way, Jada is basically telling people that their opinions of her marriage matter so much that she needs to keep addressing them. Never validate your haters. Ever.
“Never validate your haters. Ever.” << YES!
She’s still talking about this? Why?
She basically said a whole bunch of nothing again. This little rant can also be mistaken for confirmation that they have an open marriage. Simply say no and don’t address it again.
Girl you have too much time on your hands. Who cares what people think about YOUR marriage. Keyword “YOUR” which means it ain’t THEIRS!
Right!
Smh There’s no need for her to keep talking about this.
Agreed.
I actually appreciate her statement. What she described is exactly what I’m looking for in a relationship and what I’m willing to give. I don’t have time to treat my man like a child and I have no interest in being treated like one either. I never get tired of positive images of love and marriage and Jada and Will are beating the odds. Love it! It gives me hope 🙂