By: Taren Vaughan
Tamera Mowry talks marriage and motherhood and warns single women not to be like Rihanna. Even before she landed her gig as a panelist on new talk show “The Real,” Tamera Mowry-Housley has never been afraid to serve up her opinion on various topics and events, even if it does ruffle some people’s feathers. And she is just as open when it comes to her marriage to Fox News correspondent Adam Housley. In addition to revealing that she lost her virginity at age 29, Tamera has spoken candidly about some of the things her and Adam practiced before they made things official and she says they did not shack up or sleep together before they got married and cited their strong faith as the reason behind the decision. And now Tamera is coming with some more advice for all the single women out there who are looking to get married and start a family. During her interview with CocoaFab, Tamera Mowry-Housley listed off what she feels are the top six ways for a woman to be a good girl in both marriage and motherhood.
And she started off her list with these three ways:
1. Don’t be rachet. Be refined.
“Like my grandmother always said, ‘dare to be different’,” says Tamera. While it’s popular these days to be the Rihanna to his Chris (okay, sans the abuse fiasco), consider being different from all of the overly sexy, turnt up girls. Guys want someone who stands out from the crowd. Remember, there’s a HUGE difference between wifey and wife! Don’t get it twisted.
2. Practice doesn’t make perfect when it comes to s*x
“If you start having s*x at such a young age, by the time you’re in your 30s and 40s, it’s old. And you’re trying many different ways to keep it new,” says Tamera. “I wanted to experience all of that once I got married and living with my husband.” Perhaps trying all of the kama sutra positions with your jumpoffs and boyfriends isn’t the best thing. After all, that will leave nothing new to explore for your husband.
3. Shacking up may be a recipe for disaster.
“I’m also conservative about relationships like living together before you’re married. We just spoke about that and I don’t think you should. I didn’t want to live with my boyfriend because I wanted to get married to experience that. All the other girls, except for Jeannie, wanted to know what they were getting before they got married. My position is that I’m jumping into this thing on faith,” says Tamera says of debating the topic on The Real. “Statistics show that if you live with your husband before you’re married, divorce rates are higher.” Cohabitating before marriage may also make the goal of marriage less important because you’re already playing house. You know the saying about the cow and the free milk… right!
What are your thoughts?
I’m a married woman and I completely agree with Tamera even though she’s a little more conservative than me. It’s cool to be young, free spirited, super sexy and rebellious when you’re young and not thinking about marriage…but when you do get the itch, you have to tone it down. Men don’t want the fun, Instagram freaks when it’s time to settle down. They want a classy woman to be their wife. It’s just how it is.
I completely agree and I’m not even married. LOL.
I agree with her. You can’t be naked on Instagram and expect someone to marry you.
But why did she have to bring Rihanna up?! Women…it’s 2013. You can do whatever you want with your bodies! I think so many women hate Rihanna because they wish they had the courage she has to be open, real and free with her sexuality. Jealousy is ugly on Tamera!
What the f-ck are you smoking?
Meh, I agree with most of what she’s saying but it all comes down to if you’re dealing with a good man or not. I know people who have shacked up and did get married. Now will they get divorced, who knows? But there’s not some set list of rules that guarantees one marriage will last over the other EXCEPT character. Good men probably have the highest chances of getting and staying married.
Tamera speaking the TRUTH!!!! She tried to be political correct when talking about Rihanna but she is basically saying don’t be a slut carry yourself like a woman not a boozehead. Ladies take note a real man respects women with morals and values.
BEAUTIFUL!
LOL I just noticed we have almost the same exact name. So I like you already…
Tamera has a lot of wisdom, but sadly it will get lost in the Rihanna standom that is sure to follow…
*STANDING OVATION* Yes! This is why I love Tia and Tamera. They represent black women so well!
I usually don’t comment because I’m not a woman. But I have to say Tamera said the truth. I’m married and I don’t get the hype for Rihanna because she doesn’t carry herself like the kind of woman a man can take home to moms. In my younger days, I’d smash and ignore her calls the next day. My wife is a real woman and she was on that classy sh-t when we met. I knew she was marriage material in the first few minutes of talking. It is what it is.
LOL you can comment on here just like we do everyday. You’re not the only man who reads this site I’m sure. But very good comment..you made great points and it’s good to see a man’s prospective in this.
Oh please! Why can’t a woman have fun before she gets married! Does she not know how many men want Rihanna and other CONFIDENT women like her?! Haters!
How is Rihanna confident though? She’s like Lady Gaga to me. Always pulling out the stunts to get attention. That’s not confidence that’s insecurity and desperation. LOL.
Agreed. I think it takes confidence to be classy…but hey I’m old school I guess.
Has Tamera ever had an orgasm before? Does she even have any friends besides Tia? She’s the type to wild out a few years from now because she didn’t have a real life before marriage. I pity her.
That’s funny because I actually pity Rihanna and all the other females just like her. They think they have to be naked to get attention and it always attracts the wrong kind of attention. Tamera is married, doesn’t have to compromise who she is to get money and she’s happy. No need to pity her. But there’s something to say about someone who needs to drink heavily and surround themselves with enablers to be happy.
Thank You *standing ovation*
Say that!
So a “real life” means lacking class? My goodness I had no idea. I guess I better get ratchet real quick before I die and forgot to live!
Nothing but wisdom in her words. Unfortunately, a lot of young women will learn all of this the hard way.
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Her message was spot on. Her delivery was not. She should have simply stated her message and not mentioned Rihanna or anyone else at all.