In a recent Bravo blog, Ashley admitted that she would do things very differently than she did on the most recent episode of RHOP if she had the chance.
Here’s some excerpts of her blog:
Bravotv.com: Tell us about sharing your plans with Michael in bed that morning a few days before the event – did you worry you should have told him earlier based on his reaction?
Ashley Darby: Michael wears many hats including father, husband, real estate developer and now restaurateur. I respect his time so, as we agreed in the beginning, I make categorical decisions for some of Oz’s operations. Planning an event to showcase our new menu was an attempt to showcase the progress we had made, as my team takes great pride in what we do here at Oz. I assumed Michael would agree and we would have a killer event that would prove all of the naysayers wrong. In hindsight, I could have taken a different approach and discussed my rationale for planning the dinner with Michael further in advance. It was the beginning of a miscommunication that snowballed.
Bravotv.com: What were you thinking during this fight in the restaurant before the event, tell us about that day.
AH: Being transported back to that day is so hard for me. The air between Michael and me was already sour because we had been going back and forth on the logistics of the evening for a couple of days. In addition to the anxiety of hosting influential food bloggers, I was arguing with my right-hand man, putting my anxiety at a higher level than I’ve ever experienced. The reality is I hate arguing with my husband – life is hard enough game without battling your teammate. Because both of us care about Oz so much, it was hard to go into the night without our usual solid foundation.
By game time that evening, our tension was at an all-time high. There had been many words exchanged via text messages and phone calls, and the added pressure of executing the dinner caused us to erupt. Michael and I both have egos that get in the way of our relationship too often, and on that night my bruised ego caused me to say horrible things to the man that I love. I winced when I heard myself talk about massaging his feet and rubbing his back – those are the two things I miss doing the most since we shifted our focus and energy to the restaurant.
As the night went on, I think our shared love for our first ‘baby’ brought our relationship back into focus. It pains me to see that we ever got to that point, but our neither of us is perfect, and neither is our relationship. What it boils down to is finding our unity even through this storm, and we are a constant work in progress.
Bravotv.com: What is the current status of your marriage, and is watching the show and this episode affecting your relationship at all?
AH: Oz is doing much better now that we have found our groove, but we are still working through the toll it took on our relationship. I would be lying to you if I said we were back to the crazy, doting couple we used to be. We still love each other and the connection that Michael and I share is very powerful. I am optimistic that we can overcome these hurdles and be stronger in the end, but even if we can’t recover and decide to part ways, I will always cherish him.
Ashley needs to grow up. She acted like a brat and embarrassed her husband and herself for absolutely nothing. It’s hard enough running a restaurant but doing it with an entitled brat has to be hard for Michael.
I think both of them could have handled things differently. She should have made sure Michael was ok with her changing up the menu and doing a taste testing before planning it. When you’re in business with your loved one, you have to always remember they are your partner, even when they don’t agree with you. And Michael doesn’t need to constantly remind her he has all the money when Ashley does things he doesn’t like.
Very true!
That’s the thing about arguments. You can’t ever really take back the things you say out of anger. So you have to think before you speak always. I wish them the best.
Cosign. It was a bad look but if she’s smart, it’s a lesson learned. If not, they will be yet another couple to fall victim to the reality TV curse.
Karma os a bish. Now Ashley needs to keep her nose out of other people’s marriages.
This is what happens when you’re all up in other people’s marriages…you miss the cracks in yours. #Karma
I was wondering if she was going to say anything. She didn’t tweet during the episode…I guess she’s really embarrassed. Ah well. She’s young. She better learn from this or she’ll end up divorced.
Yeah it’s definitely not a good look to curse your husband out on TV. They need to learn how to disagree.