Joe Budden Says Black Men Dating 'Spanish' Women & Not Loving Black Women is a Myth

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Joe Budden Says Black Men Dating ‘Spanish’ Women & Not Loving Black Women is a Myth

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By: Amanda Anderson-Niles

Joe Budden and Cyn Santana will return for the upcoming season of “Love And Hip Hop New York.” Their breakup has kept both in the headlines for weeks. So it’s expected that their split will be addressed on the show. Joe has been romantically linked to other women since. But Joe claimed he’s not dating anyone recently on Twitter.

He’s pretty vocal about a lot of things on Twitter. Recently, he shared his thoughts on the view that black men don’t actually love black women. And that many say they do but turn around and date “Spanish” women.

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40 Comments

  1. Anonymous

    September 26, 2019 at 7:48 am

    Something isn’t a myth just because you refuse to acknowledge it.

  2. Ugggggghhhhhhhhh

    September 26, 2019 at 8:12 am

    So we categorizing women as languages now… Spanish is a language 🙄 unless referring to women directly from Spain. Black men are dating mixed black women with non black features who happen to speak Spanish because of their nationality whole or in part because of the love they DONT have for black women

  3. Lana

    September 26, 2019 at 8:22 am

    What statistics is Joe referring to? The black marriage stats? Because that number has been declining for years. Last time I looked, 80 percent of black men marry black women. That number was like 96% about a decade or so ago. So…yeah.

    • Jaytheprofit

      September 26, 2019 at 10:35 am

      Only bc it’s more accepting of other races to marry black men now and that goes for black women too they date white men over black men

      • Lana

        September 26, 2019 at 11:03 am

        Actually, black women and Asian men are the least likely to be in interracial marriages. Black women in particular prefer to marry black men. A lot of black women will stay single if they can’t find a black man they are compatible with because many aren’t open to interracial relationships. So you’re wrong. Very wrong actually.

  4. Rock Hard

    September 26, 2019 at 8:49 am

    They can have your sorry a-s u dont love your children or your mothers and aunts or your black beautiful sisters . Tied of being patient and putting up with caring for one who first has no love for his self or his blackness ,let those pink glow in the dark hoe’s with fake a-ses that will fu.. all your friends,sons,daddy and who ever you tell her to because the b…. is just that TRASH,that u dont take out anyway so keep it. Lost Brothers.

  5. Shayla

    September 26, 2019 at 9:05 am

    I guess Joe took that response to his love black men tweet personally.

  6. Queen

    September 26, 2019 at 9:08 am

    He should have said this to Cyn since she believes black men give preferential treatment to Latinas.

  7. Nikki

    September 28, 2019 at 12:50 pm

    It kind of makes me mad when I see black women whining about black men dating other races. Why are you mad? Is it because you can’t find a black man that will wife you up? It’s not about black men preferring another race, it’s about who he falls in love with. If no man is choosing you to be with on a long term basis…it might be you! Change some things about yourself, and stop blaming other races of women for why you don’t have a man! Oh, and by the way..I’m black too.

    • Whatever

      September 28, 2019 at 12:58 pm

      No one on here or in the tweet is blaming non black women for anything. What is happening is black women are holding black men accountable for their anti-blackness. So take your black women are single, bitter and angry with non black women narrative somewhere else please. Thanks, “black woman.”

      • Nikki

        September 28, 2019 at 2:28 pm

        Girl please! You said it, I didn’t. “bitter and angry”. Why do you feel like YOU need to hold black men accountable for who they date? Why is it so important to you? Is it because you can’t get one? How is it hurting you? If it walks and talks like its BITTER AND ANGRY, it just might be BITTER AND ANGRY! Some of you make yourselves look desperate and stupid about a black man. Can you not date outside of your race too? Yall out here so worried about who black men date, you can’t get your own ish together. I’ve been married to my BLACK MAN happily for 10+ years. Stop attacking black men for falling in love with who they want to fall in love with. Focus on self-improvement. You can’t tell people who to date, like, or fall for! Girl Bye!

        • Whatever

          September 28, 2019 at 3:56 pm

          Ah gaslighting. You’re either a pick me or a nonblack woman (or both). The word vomit you just typed makes that clear. I’m married to a black man also so???? None of that has anything to do with the topic of discussion.

          • Nikki

            September 28, 2019 at 8:59 pm

            Naw hun, I’m a confident black woman who does not flinch when I see a black man with a non-black woman. There are mixed marriages in my family and I have no issue with it. Well it sounds to me like you just choose to be bitter for no reason then! You out here trying to tell people who to love and it makes you look dumb! Sorry I wasn’t raised to be ignorant and jealous of other races of women. My parents raised me with self-confidence. That’s why I see things the way I see them. I will NEVER raise my son to feel as if he can only fall in love with a black woman. I want him to love a woman who loves him and treats him like a the King he is….I don’t care if she is purple!

          • Whatever

            September 28, 2019 at 9:19 pm

            Nikki, you’re not a confident black woman. I doubt you’re even black. But nothing you typed even screams out confidence. Your word vomit is hilarious though. Anti-black women trolls like you always stick to the same tired script and the same tired narratives because you’re not capable of true discourse. Your need to think I’m bitter, hate interracial relationships, etc. does not move me. The real question is why are you not able to stay on topic and understand context?

          • Actually

            September 28, 2019 at 9:35 pm

            Nikki, you really have issues, sweetheart. Like I’m baffled at how you just came on here and completely bashed black women like this multiple times. If anyone is angry and bitter, it’s you love. Nothing about your aura is loving or positive. You came on here angry and you’re still on here angry. Then on top of that, you wrongly assumed Whatever wasn’t married and actually thought it gave you some advantage over her. You say your parents raised you to have self-confidence, but nothing you typed here backs that up. Nothing. For example, no confident woman cares about how black women look collectively or the stereotypes that were created about black women. You are very insecure and lack knowledge about a lot of things. Maybe you’re the one who needs self-improvement. You also claim to be black but have no understanding of white supremacy or anti-blackness. Yikes.

    • Jessica

      September 28, 2019 at 4:12 pm

      Black men and black women are both critical of the other dating outside the race. Not too long ago black men were dragging Meghan Markle on Twitter for marrying a white man. They did the same to Serena Williams when she married a white man. And recently a black man dragged Tika Sumpter about her white fiancé: https://urbanbellemag.com/2019/07/tika-sumpter-ig-interracial-relationship/. It truly goes both ways. So I hope you also get mad when black men do it.

      • Nikki

        September 28, 2019 at 8:43 pm

        So what! It goes both ways. Do you see or hear white women, latina women, etc whining about the men in their races dating outside of it? White men marry asian women all the time, latino men date and marry black women, white women, etc. You never see or hear them whining and complaining about who their men date like black women do. Yall need to get over that ish and move on. It makes us look jealous and bitter of other races of women. You can send me all the links you want to and it will not change the fact that all that whining yall are doing is getting old and tired! Smh

        • Jessica

          September 28, 2019 at 9:11 pm

          So I just proved to you that it goes both ways but you proceeded to criticize black women anyway. Then you sat here and lied by saying white and Latina women don’t complain about interracial dating. Just say you don’t like black women and go.

          • Actually

            September 28, 2019 at 9:38 pm

            She doesn’t care about any evidence you give her that proves it goes both ways because her fake self confidence depends on her believing she is superior to other black women. This is not what self confidence looks like.

          • Nikki

            September 29, 2019 at 1:47 pm

            No. I just hate negative, bitter black women like you! Were my previous conversations not clear enough for you? Why be mad at the black men who date outside our race when their are still plenty of black men who love black women..like my husband and his friends? Yall are focusing on the negative instead of the positive. That’s what I mean by whining. Some people just aren’t happy unless they find something negative to wallow in.

    • Kanisha

      September 28, 2019 at 7:39 pm

      Its clear you hate your own .

      • Nikki

        September 28, 2019 at 8:33 pm

        I love confident black women like me who do not care what race black men are dating. I don’t whine and cry about somebody else’s life choices. That’s what you should be clear about!

        • Meesha

          September 28, 2019 at 8:49 pm

          You’re not really confident though. Your self esteem is based on believing you’re better than other women and having a man.

          • Actually

            September 28, 2019 at 9:38 pm

            Bingo.

          • Nikki

            September 28, 2019 at 9:40 pm

            My self esteem is based on my happiness and my upbringing. Period. Should I apologize for not being hateful and jealous when I see a black man with a latina, etc? I never said I was better than anybody. Obviously you feel inferior based on my previous conversations. Sorry, not sorry!

          • Meesha

            September 28, 2019 at 9:47 pm

            No happy person behaves the way you do on the internet. And you wish you could make me feel inferior. You don’t even have the range, sis.

          • Nikki

            September 29, 2019 at 12:50 pm

            Girls stop it! You have a serious need to tell me how un-black I am, and how I lack confidence because I choose not to be a hater of interracial relationships. Lol! What is so bad about my behavior? What, I’m behaving badly because I’m not jumping on the negativity train. You or nobody else can change the way I feel, just like you or nobody else can stop a black man from dating who he wants to date. A lot of yall seemed to get upset with my opinion. Could it be because THE TRUTH HURTS? You feel that I am bashing black women because I don’t agree with you? Typical. Tell me, what are you accomplishing by being upset about black men dating outside of our race? Will your anger stop them? Are they going to wake up one day and decide they will never date non-black women again because you decided to rant and rave about it all over social media? Nope! Yall take that negativity and hatred to somebody else because I said what I said, and feel the way I feel! Don’t get mad at me because I’m happy with my life and try to tell me I’m not. Some of yall cannot stand to think that somebody in this life aren’t as miserable as some of you. Sound familiar? Crab in a bucket behavior! Now leave me alone and go wallow in your misery!

          • Meesha

            September 29, 2019 at 12:56 pm

            Yawn. You’re still on here having meltdowns, Nikki? I thought you were supposed to be happy? Funny thing about opinions. You want people to respect yours but you’re on here now because you don’t respect the opinions of Black women who think differently than you. You’re a fraudulent, walking contradiction. ‘Tis all.

          • Nikki

            September 29, 2019 at 2:04 pm

            Is that what you call a meltdown? Sorry hun, I don’t have meltdowns, just opinions…which you seem to be highly irritated by. I see you are still worried about my happiness. I’m so sorry it bothers you so much to know someone is happy that you have to try to disprove it. It just proves your misery. I might give you a thought when I’m laying in my husband’s arms tonight watching “Power”. Oh, and maybe if you stop focusing on the black men who don’t date black women, you might find one who does! Negativity at it’s finest! Have a happy Sunday!

        • Tracey

          September 28, 2019 at 10:27 pm

          Nikki, you’re actually whining and crying about somebody’s life choices all up and down this post. That’s what makes all this crap you’ve been spewing so ironic. You’re wagging your finger and telling black women they are pathetic to care about somebody’s else’s life choices but you’ve been doing the exact same thing on here all day.

          • Nikki

            September 29, 2019 at 1:09 pm

            Oh, so it’s these ladies life choice to have an opinion? Or, is it an opinion? You clearly don’t know what a life choice is.

    • Girl Bye

      September 28, 2019 at 10:08 pm

      This is such a basic comment. The young ladies in these tweets are pointing out the hypocrisy in a black man saying he loves and supports black women but only dating white or non-black Latinas. Like what are you even going on about? Are you assuming black women have to be single to point out something that obvious? Malarkey.

      • Nikki

        September 29, 2019 at 1:13 pm

        Is that what stood out to you? Then obviously the being single part affects you! Maybe that is why you’re so upset when you see a black man with a non-black woman. A black man can love and support black women without dating, or being married to one. You have a SIMPLE way of thinking. Girl Bye!

        • Girl Bye

          September 29, 2019 at 1:20 pm

          You’re the simplest person here baby.

  8. Noel

    September 29, 2019 at 12:31 pm

    FYI Nikki: Some white women aren’t crazy about white men marrying Asian or any non-white women. At the end of the day, we all have limited perspectives based on our own life experiences. I guarantee you that there are a lot of men and women from all races and cultures who’d prefer to see members of their group stay with their own group to maintain their cultures. I have had Asian men, Jewish men and men of Middle Eastern descent tell me POINT BLANK that they would NEVER marry outside of their culture. Just because many black women feel that same sense of loyalty toward black men doesn’t make them “whiny” or inferior in any way. Please stop beating up on black women. If you really are black, you should know better.

    • Nikki

      September 29, 2019 at 1:35 pm

      OMG! Another one who feels like I’m beating up on the whole race of black women because I don’t fall in line with the nonsense! Not all black women have a problem with mixed races. You have all this loyalty toward black men, then yall want to get upset when he gets with another race. That’s your fault! Your focused on him, when he is clearly not focused on you! Get what I’m saying now? So stop whining about someone who doesn’t give a crap about how you feel. There are a lot of black men that STILL date and marry black women everyday. I’m married to a black man, my husband’s best friend who is black also, just married a black woman. All of my married friends are BLACK COUPLES! So why focus on the ones who don’t? That’s what I call whining! Some of you are going to be 70 and 80 yrs old still mad about who black men are dating, and they will be living happily ever after with their interracial families. I’m not bashing black women at all, I’m just trying to get the negative ones to focus on the men who do love black women…and stop sounding like bitter, jealous haters.

      • Whatever

        September 29, 2019 at 1:49 pm

        I mean I agree with this comment. It’s just at times your delivery is harsh and your message got lost in translation. Despite our back and forth, I respect you and apologize for misunderstanding you. Hopefully the others will get your perspective better now. Have a great Sunday.

        • Nikko

          September 29, 2019 at 2:30 pm

          I truly appreciate you hun, and I apologize too. The way I come off can be harsh (my best friend tells me all the time), but my intentions are always good. I will work on that from now on. You have a great Sunday too.

  9. Nikki

    September 29, 2019 at 2:58 pm

    I appreciate you, and hope you will accept my apology as well. I will work on my delivery from now on. I’ve been told I can be harsh a times and I’m so sorry for that. I’m harder on my people because I expect more from us. Enjoy your Sunday as well.

    • Whatever

      September 29, 2019 at 4:00 pm

      Girl, I feel you. Of course I accept your apology. Truth be told, I need to work on my temper. I came for you first and that was wrong. I hate that we misunderstood each other and got disrespectful. We both love black women and just want the best for us. Cheers to that though. Much love!

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