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RHOA Star Kandi Burruss Says Todd Tucker Should Respect Mama Joyce No Matter What

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By: Amanda Anderson-Niles

“Real Housewives of Atlanta” star Kandi Burruss has had some ups and downs in her marriage to Todd Tucker. One of their biggest issues has been Mama Joyce. She doesn’t trust Todd. And she’s convinced that he’s only with Kandi because of her money.

Kandi strongly disagrees and she says Todd has been helping her make even more money with his business ideas.

Regardless, this hasn’t done much to change Joyce’s opinions.

So she was livid when Todd didn’t speak to her when they were at the same restaurant.

While discussing this on her YouTube channel, Kandi said that Todd was wrong. She feels he should always respect Joyce no matter what due to her age.

Click next for the details. 

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Amanda is a TV junkie with a passion for all things reality television. She's from Decatur, GA.



  1. Gloria

    April 23, 2020 at 12:02 pm


    • Len Grimes

      April 23, 2020 at 12:15 pm

      Kandi bout to lose a husband. Everyone deserves respect. Mom has been way out of pocket and beyond hurtful/disrespectful to Todd. Put yourself in Todd shoes. If his people cont to do you that way. How would you feel?

      • kimberly

        April 23, 2020 at 8:04 pm

        I know alot of yall new black folks don’t agree with respecting your elders but Kandi does.And I’m like Kandi.She can say to her Mother in a respectful way that she doesn’t want to herspeak out of pocket about her husband.Todd couldve spoke like Kandi said.That dont cost you nothing.Where I do think Kandi is wrong is when she go back and tell Todd the stuff her Mother be saying.Thats going to constantly keep friction up.And Kandi aint fooling nobody with that Todd has had good ideas that has made her money.Yeah,But when the last time he worked and contributed some money.He getting a lil too cocky for me.

        • Latrease S.

          April 24, 2020 at 1:03 am

          I’m excuse me, where do you think The Old Lady Gang business idea came from?? Todd. Where do you think the menu ideas or concepts came from?? Todd. Whos idea was it to design the look of the restaurant as well as other locations?? He helped bring in money… So therefore he’s been working. Just bcuz you dont see his work up front and on the show doesnt mean that man aint working. And her mama need to sit her a-s down somewhere. Yea I said it, she dont have no peoblem with Todd helping bringing in money with business ideas but she gone go to her grave making sure she have it all herself. Truth be told she never wanted Kandi to be married to anybody… She wanted her daughter to take care of her for the rest of her life with no interruptions. Talk about selfish and evil but want respect Tuh.

          • Kim

            April 24, 2020 at 8:07 am

            But,See thats the least he can do is give ideas.Hes not bringing anything else to the table.Look Momma Joyce dont like Todd because she feels he’s living off of her daughter his wife.Now that’s none of Momma Joyce business now because its too late and they’re married.But,Y’all know if that was one of yall relatives yall wouldn’t care about his ideas.Yall would be saying the same thing Momma Joyce is saying.And I beg your pardon Kandi came up with the ole lady gang name and idea.Todd came up with lets open another one and spend some more of Kandi money.I know they’re married and its their money but Kandi was a millionaire when Todd met her.Kandi had ideas that made her rich before him.Todd needs to become busy in doing something of his own to bring to that marriage.

          • So Confused

            April 24, 2020 at 8:22 am

            Kim, Todd is the one who came up with the idea of OLG. Kandi had no desire to open a restaurant. It was Todd who told her they should and came up with the concept that includes Mama Joyce and her two aunts. Mama Joyce now gets a check from Todd’s idea. He also pushed to make it a franchise. Also, I’m not sure why you’re downplaying ideas. Facebook was an idea. Microsoft was an idea. Berkshire Hathaway was an idea. Every successful business in the world started off as an idea. It’s just weird to see some of you on here talking down on Todd when he’s actually much better than most of the black men that black women end up with. He actually had a career making six figures when he met Kandi and he’s been coming up with ideas that Kandi herself said made her even richer. Meanwhile, where is Mama Joyce’s man? Does she even have one? Does he make six figures? I don’t get how y’all clown Todd like he ain’t better than 95% of the single black men in Atlanta. Sure, he wasn’t a millionaire when they met but how does that make him a bum? Kandi is wealthier now because of him. Any female relative with sense would appreciate a man who had a successful six-figure career and great business ideas to make their wealthy relative even wealthier. Mama Joyce is a mess. She acts a fool because she wants Kandi’s money all to herself. She was stealing money from Kandi but has the nerve to come for Todd who actually helps Kandi make money? And that’s who you’re riding with? Oh.

          • Stephanie

            April 24, 2020 at 8:02 pm

            I agree with you, kandi’s mom needs to respect her marriage and stay out of. Kandi is a big girl now and will take care of herself as well as her momma. Momma Joyce ought to know that. I’m sure kandi has being doing it since she has been able to. Momma Joyce needs to give respect to get it- it doesn’t hurt anyone to be kind. Kandi it doesn’t matter how old someone is Meaness is meaness! Support your husband and stop laughing and taking the things your mother said or does back to him. Doing that looks like u r enjoying the friction it causes.

          • Lindda

            April 25, 2020 at 3:37 pm

            I would like to see Todd get out of that marriage!! That Joyce woman will never stop! She lightens up for a while and reverts to the same bull crap. He and Kandi can co parent for the sake of the children but he needs a wife who needs him more than Kandi. I’m having doubts as to why she was so eager to find a husband because clearly her love and respect for that Joyce woman supersedes ANYONE !!! Let that woman have Kandi and her Money!!!

          • A

            April 26, 2020 at 10:43 pm

            My thoughts exactly…He had a six figure job when they met so I don’t understand why ppl act like he’s just some bum…Kandi already said she’s dated multimillionaires and she doesn’t want that because they are doggs too and don’t treat her right…she’s with who she wants to be with…just like everybody dogging her about her ring as if Todd couldn’t have gotten herbal bigger ring…she picked what she liked…that man works and takes care of his family..she’s the one that’s never there..

        • Nikki

          April 25, 2020 at 5:50 pm

          Girl please! Black, white, whatever. Respect is earned..NOT GIVEN! Mama Joyce has been disrespectful to Todd from day one. It doesn’t matter what Todd’s financial status is. That’s who Kandi chose. It is none of Mama Joyce’s business how much money he is bringing in. Todd is married to Kandi..not her! Furthermore; Mama Joyce is rude, disrespectful, and feels entitled because she is Kandi’s mom. She wants Kandi to be manless like she is.

        • A

          April 26, 2020 at 10:33 pm

          Wait a min…how do you know he what he has and hasn’t’s funny how you speak as if you know dare you talk about what that man has and hasn’t done… Kandi already stated that he pays bills..he does million dollars productions…he tried to take a job out of town and she was crying because she didn’t want him to miss the job to do the play…your just as immature as her jealous a-s momma

    • Ratchet Queen

      April 23, 2020 at 12:25 pm


      • Tai'Leaha

        April 23, 2020 at 11:45 pm

        I never comment but come on Kandi. It’s never okay for your mother to be disrespectful. Actually because she’s older she should be ashame of her behavior.
        So, are you saying it’s okay for your mom to disrespect your husband? Everyone’s grown and your mother should never disrespect your husband.
        God said thou shall not judge.

    • Laura

      April 24, 2020 at 10:59 am

      I believe that Kandi needs to let her mom know that she should respect her husband. I am by no means saying that she should disrespect her mother but what her mother is doing to Todd is wrong and disrespectful. I guess she don mind losing her husband.

    • Lemar

      April 25, 2020 at 12:08 pm

      You know what, Ms Joyce is Out of pocket right now! And Kandi is on the verge of losing her husband she’ll be divorced and single JUST LIKE HER MAMA!!! Seems like Ms Joyce is trying her best to do just That! I’ll sit by and watch how long it’ll take Kandi to figure this out before it’s too late!! DISGUSTING

  2. Joyce Agyeman Osei

    April 23, 2020 at 12:02 pm

    I understand that Mama Joyce is your mother and he must respect her at all times. However, respect does goes both ways. As much as he goes above and beyond for you, your family, and your mother, it is NEVER good enough. Plus, as I recall, she did not have a lot of respect for Todd’s mother before she passed. A man can only do so much and take so much before he throws in the towel. I PRAY that does not happen with you and Todd.

    • linda

      April 26, 2020 at 10:00 pm

      It needs to happen! They’ve been married for 6 years and that ugly woman is still on the same a-s BS!! Todd needs to leave and show Kandi that she has to make changes where tha woman is concerned. Kandi expects to much from Todd just because she holds the purse string. A trial separation is very much needed in this situation. Todd has to put his foot down otherwise nothings going to change!!

  3. Queen

    April 23, 2020 at 12:20 pm

    Her mother should respect her husband. But she doesn’t. And she even bashed the man’s mother while she was living. The fact that the worst thing Todd has done in retaliation is not speak to her at a restaurant is commendable.

  4. Tiffani Young

    April 23, 2020 at 12:25 pm

    ha ha ha…really we will see how long this lasts

  5. Lay Lay

    April 23, 2020 at 12:28 pm

    Kandi is always making excuses for her momma. What a shame.

  6. Anony

    April 23, 2020 at 12:56 pm

    Mama Joyce probably wants to jump Todd’s bones. Cant think of any other reason she hates him so much.

  7. Blackrose

    April 23, 2020 at 1:05 pm

    She going to lose her husband over her mama. Smh

  8. Shady Bootz

    April 23, 2020 at 1:15 pm

    In the words of Mal at Pillow Talk “I’m gonna f-ck Kandi up tonight! I will beat her muthafuckin a-s.” Kandi has truly let me down this season.

    • Casey Grimes-Finley

      April 23, 2020 at 8:31 pm

      Kandi is only a coin’s throw from being in divorce litigation.KEEP EVERYBODY OUT OF YOUR MARRIAGE/PERSONAL BUSINESS.I have nosy,meddling in laws,myself.I had to cut off these toxic folks COMPLETELY!I DON’T CARE WHO HAS TO GO!!!!!!!!!!! Kandi is gonna end up old and alone just like Mama Joyce wants.This isn’t not normal.Your spouse comes first,after God.Thank you,Casey Grimes-Finley,Chicago,Illinois

      • Willa

        April 26, 2020 at 9:15 am

        I agree with Kandi. Todd should always speak to his mother-in-law. I was taught when you enter a place you always speak to those you know. Momma Joyce I say this with no disrespect, Todd is your son-in-law and Kandi is your daughter , I feel you should never let your anger keep you from attending such a important event in your daughters life. It was not all about you. It was about you standing beside your daughter no matter what as she would you. EmbraceTodd if he is wrong for Kandi she will see it and act on it if you are kind to him. It always works for me with my daughter and a man I feel is not good for her. Kindness goes a long way.

  9. deb dyson

    April 23, 2020 at 1:32 pm

    Respect is earned not given & she needs to demand her mother respect her husband, her mother is foul & to old for someone to make excuses for. Todd is right, stay away from her, period.

  10. Char

    April 23, 2020 at 2:25 pm

    Mature where? Lol

  11. Trina

    April 23, 2020 at 3:41 pm

    Her mother is rude and disrespectful to him. At least he paid for the meal she had. He has been real good dealing with Moma Joyce based on the behavior we have seen on the show. Baby, you know that is worse off camera.

  12. Bernice Thomas

    April 23, 2020 at 4:39 pm

    Kandi enough is.enough mother or not in order to get respect you must give respect Apologize for what because Todd didn’t speak to your Mom please why would she want him to speak to her the way she talks about Todd he has children that’s not right tha doesnt give her a pass because she’s your mother

  13. E hall

    April 23, 2020 at 5:28 pm

    Kandi needs to let that go. Her mother will never like or respect Todd. It’s better to keep the two apart, period.. If a person was raised in a home without showing their parent’s respect. They’re darn well are not going to show other adults respect. This new generation with this , “Respect is earned, not given.” Speaks volumes of how they were raised. Todd is not who Kandi thinks he is. And her mother is too old to change. Todd and Apollo are one in the same. First they eliminate your closest friends, then they start working on the family. Kandi keep your mother and husband apart, but always keep your mother/ father in the loop. Trust!!!

    • Miracle

      April 23, 2020 at 5:44 pm

      No disrespect, but I don’t see how Todd and Apollo are alike at all. Todd actually had a career, making six figures when he met Kandi. He was technically rich according to the top 1% of earners in the state of GA. And he’s helped Kandi make millions more with his ideas while Apollo was committing crimes. Todd also hasn’t caused Kandi to lose any of her closest friends. She’s maintained all of her friendships, and a good bit of them are even cool with Todd. Joyce has done a lot of horrible things to Todd, including calling his mom a pr-stitute. I think the new generation is smarter in that they understand emotional intelligence is not subjecting yourself to emotional abuse just because someone is older. And Joyce throwing a shoe at someone on the show and defaming Kandi’s friends and Todd’s mother on TV also speaks to how she was raised I think. Anyway, I’m not trying to change your opinion. Just wanted to give my two cents. We can agree to disagree and I respect your opinions.

      • Lady

        April 23, 2020 at 9:18 pm

        I agree with you ?%..She comparing Apollo to Todd, that man is nothing like him, Apollo mad with them because they haven’t called him back about a business deal.. They ain’t messing with Apollo like that. Mana Joyce loves Kandi money, she’s going to lose a good man.. Everybody always wanna judge Todd & don’t even know that man

    • Eve

      April 23, 2020 at 11:41 pm

      I’m sorry but I can’t make excuses for Kandi. She is aware that her mother doesn’t care for her husband, so quit taking your business out the home. However, Kandi has said on several occasions that Todd can be an a**hole, which speaks volumes. This man has an evil side. I’m baffled with people who think six figures is rich, take it from me it isn’t. Kandi has made sure her mother is well taken care of, so the animosity toward Todd isn’t about money with her. She see Todd for who he is. Todd did come between Kandi & Phaedra’s friendship, with hiding assets of Apollo’s at Kandi/Todd’s home, when the Feds were after him. Kandi was out of pocket for not telling Phaedra what they were doing, not that is excuses her behavior for retaliating and construct that terrible lie about Kandi and the dungeon. Kandi and Phaedra were friends prior to Todd & Apollo. We’ll just have to wait and see how this thing plays out, hopefully in Kandi’s favor.

      • Oprah’s Wig

        April 24, 2020 at 12:13 am

        Miracle is actually correct. According to the Census Bureau, earning about $142,000 a year puts someone in the 5% of earners in the state of Georgia, which is considered rich. Wealthy is earning about $500,000 a year on up. So yes, six figures is considered rich. Many Americans mistakenly think you have to earn $25 million to be rich and that’s incorrect. They did a study not too long ago about this and most don’t really know what rich is. Todd was doing very good before Kandi.

        • Eve

          April 24, 2020 at 12:57 am

          Thank you Oprah’s Wig. I know here in Northern California, six figures doesn’t take me very far at all, and $142k/yr is nowhere near the 5% of earners here. And I am definitely not living above my means. I guess I’m in the wrong state. I stand corrected.

    • A

      April 26, 2020 at 10:56 pm

      E.Hall Everything you said is false and so far fetched….him and Apollo are nothing alike… Apollo is a criminal and flirts with other women while Phaedra is around…Todd had a career when they met…he gave up everything for Kandi so she could continue to pursue her career and have a family..he takes care of the kids more then her. He deserves respect and not all that crap from her mother..he has done nothing but respect her while she slanders his name around Atlanta. She still has all her friends and family so what are you talking about…her mother is the problem..

  14. Tsesler

    April 23, 2020 at 5:47 pm

    It’s a bad situation all the way around… I think it’s unfair that Kandi is in the middle of two people she cares such much about.

  15. Moliscious

    April 23, 2020 at 5:49 pm

    Kandi is going to be divorced with 2 kids just like Monica. She’s worried about Todd speaking to her and why when she don’t care for Todd. It’s very clear and she never will. Todd run while you can. I’ve never seen Kandi stand up for her husband at all even with her daughter Riley. Even Riley disrespects Todd. Momma Joyce always speaking on Kandi’s money because she’s worried about the money being taking away from her. Wasn’t she stealing from Kandi and had opened some credit cards in Kandi’s name, instead of just asking her daughter for more of an allowance because Kandi was giving her 1,000 dollars a week or month something like that. She brought her Momma a house and a car and gives her money, what else does she want? Kandi better wake up before she’s single again..

    • Lucretia

      April 23, 2020 at 7:14 pm

      She always disrespectful towards todd u going to mess around and he’s going to leave ur a-s u need to get the bible and read it cause cleanly u don’t know they’re is no GOD in ur marriage at all ur husband comes first ur mother is last.

  16. R

    April 23, 2020 at 7:40 pm

    Now hold up Kandi, you got to give respect to get it. How long you think your marriage will last if you keep letting your mom spit on your husband. Put on your big girl panties and give her the same respect talk you giving him.

  17. CiCi

    April 23, 2020 at 7:43 pm

    It’s not okay for your parents to disrespect your spouse. Kandi continues to brush this off and still expect Joyce to get respect because she’s an older woman. I’m sorry but this is ridiculous.

  18. Patricia

    April 23, 2020 at 8:20 pm

    Kandi your mother is nasty,Todd does not have to get her happy he is married you you. Don’t lose your husband about your mama shit.

  19. Alisa Williams

    April 23, 2020 at 11:15 pm

    I hope he leave her trout mouth a-s

  20. Kebo

    April 23, 2020 at 11:50 pm

    Mama Joyce is a crazy old hateful woman. She has disrespected Todd on many occasions. He should have hard checked her a long time ago.I am old school too. However,I don’t believe in giving folks a pass because they’re old. Old people know when they’re on B.S. I am older now and treat my kid as an adult that she is. I don’t tell her what to do. I suggest. If you want respect, damnit give respect.

    • Sweetie

      April 24, 2020 at 1:26 am

      My mom always told me if you give respect you will get respect l am so grateful that my mom Loves my husband and treat him like he’s her son.Todd my prayers are with you

    • linda

      April 26, 2020 at 9:12 pm

      I think I HATE that woman. She’s so Evil that when she smiles she still looks wicked! Todd needs to RUN before something happens to him !!

  21. Keturah

    April 24, 2020 at 2:47 pm

    Kandi needs to put on her big gurl panties and let her Mother know she needs to stay in her place. Mama Joyce is a crabby older lady with a crabby attitude. She wants to be in charge of everything and everyone. Shes never satisfied. The biblical reference to marriage is ‘forsaken ALL others. Mama Joyce had her chance at marriage and couldnt jeep that man. Kandi needs to get some balls and put Joyce in her place. Go sit your selfish a-s down somewhere.

  22. Megan Alexander

    April 25, 2020 at 9:18 am

    She needs to put her mom in her place this woman has been disrespecting this man and his mom the years now. Kandi let her mama get away with too much,and I don’t blame Todd I wouldn’t apologize to her either.

  23. Ejb

    April 26, 2020 at 9:56 am

    Kandi should just tell Mama J where to put it…Kandi enables her moms disrespect by not standing up to her. Todd should have walked from this relationship in the beginning as they’ve continued to disrespect him and what he’s about. Kandi married him and should tell her mom to butt out of their business as it is their business. I’m sure Todd feels his wife does not respect him as she always siding with her mom. Old school people don’t act like loud mouthed spoiled brats. Joyce has not earned any respect by her behavior. If Kandi wants her marriage to continue she should ask her mom to remove herself from it and keep her mean a-sed opinions to herself.

    • linda

      April 26, 2020 at 9:21 pm

      Ugly woman inside and out. What does her man do for her? She’s hustling Kandi. I bet whoever she’s dating is only invested for come up himself. She wanted Kandi to marry a lawyer, doctor. What d-mn lawyer or doctor would involve themselves in THAT FAMILY! She should be d-mn great full that Todd did. I venture to say is Todd ever walked Kandi would spend another life time finding another husband. It would be hit and miss from then on and deservingly so?

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