“I guess the crazy thing is, so many women haven’t caught on to the fact that it’s not normal for a man to call you only during late nights. He doesn’t even care enough to check on you and see how your day is going, but you’re giving him the goods when he comes over late at night. And because they keep allowing it, we keep doing it. Any woman I was really feeling didn’t have to wait until midnight to see and hear from me. But the ones that I just wanted to have sex with, only got my attention after midnight. It’s hard to love a woman who allows that kind of behavior. Is it wrong of me, yeah it is, but some women set themselves up and we just oblige.” – Adam K.
“I’m not saying I have the best relationship with my family, but there is no way that I am going to be involved with someone seriously and not bring them around the fam. A year is enough time to figure out what you want with someone, if you still haven’t met my family after a year and we’re sleeping together, you’re not someone I really want to be with on a serious level, and yeah, I’m going to be looking for that woman I want to bring around while kicking it with you.” – Nicholas B.
” A man has hit the jackpot when he can get sex anytime he wants it from a woman he’s not even committed to.” – Mike W.
” I understand women like to go out on dates and be treated to expensive dinners, but I won’t spend money on a chick that I only plan to sleep with. It’s a recession, and I’d rather spend my money on the woman who wouldn’t allow me to keep her in the house. I only spend money when I have to. The side chick is relatively cheap.” – Jason T.
“No one is ever faithful to the side chick, but most of them think the others are the jump offs. Men can be faithful, we just have to want to be faithful. If he’s not, you’re just not that serious.” – Blake A.
” If it’s not a serious relationship, I’m not going to care too much about how the sex was for her. I’m going to finish and not think twice about how she felt. But when I am serious about a woman, I am going to learn how body, her needs, wants, and do what I have to do to give her just that. I won’t just beat it up and bounce, not when she means something to me.”- Alan H.
Good Job! Way to lay it all out there! I'm in total agreement with everything that was said! In my opinion there would be no side chicks if there was more self-respect in the world. More women should know their worth and not put up with all this "conditional dating." He's willing to come over and chill on ONE CONDITION…he won't have to commit to anything too serious. If none of us tolerated this "Women-come-a-dime-a-dozen Madness," then who would be their options then? NO ONE, that's who! Instead we'd ALL be exactly what we're intended to be–TOP PRIORITIES!Great Post Amanda!
Bookmarked!
Feeling kind of naive right now! damn! lol
I am stiuck in a place where I have met his family and I am close with them and he does do things for me and takes me out but I know there is someone else and I can't take it. So He says that he doesn't want to be in a relationship and he will be moving soon but it isn't that simple for me because I want him and just for me. But I do understand that he will be leave soon and I will to but my heart won't let go. We had great sex and always had fun whenever we are out together yet he says he doesn't want to lose me just because he isn't ready to commit right now. I said I'll try but there won't be any friends now & lover's when ever it's convenient for you. The closest I'll go is a hug and kiss on the cheek.
I have seen many of my friends fall for men introducing them to their parents. Many uncommitted men use this as a ruse and manipulation to keep the woman thinking she is “the one”. They will also make consistent comments about getting married in the future. Players will also wine and dine, regardless, because it is still a necessity for “getting it on” very early. A skilled player is not always this easy to read.