Could Jay-Z and Beyonce become another positive influence for marriage and black families, like Barack & Michelle Obama?
By: A.J. Niles
Writer Arlene Jones, of the Austin Weekly News, proclaims Jay-Z is in an excellent position to raise the bar and expectations of black fatherhood.
Jay-Z appeared on Oprah’s Master Class this past Sunday and discussed being a dad to his daughter, Blue Ivy Carter. Jay-Z says, “…at the end of the day, I just know I’ll probably have the worst, spoiled little kid ever.” Many people have been critical of Jay’s possible spoiling of Blue, since most parents view the spoiling of a child as a symbol of bad parenting. In response to this quote and to the critics, Arlene writes,
It is also very easy to take what Jay Z said and critique it out of context. The reality of a spoiled-rotten 2-year-old can bring sensitivities to any parent who has had to deal with them.
Arlene would like to see the critics of Jay-Z and his wife Beyonce focus their attention on other “black folks for their continued out-of-wedlock birthrates”.
Jay Z and Beyonce followed a path that is more traditional than anything. They dated, they got engaged, they got married, and then years later they had a child. Blue Ivy is now in the minority for black children because she has a married mother and father.
I’d like to see Jay Z go on a rant and tell black males to acknowledge their children. Notice I used the term “males” and not “men,” simply because a real man would never deny his child. Out-of-wedlock births and the men who deny their progeny are the main reasons for so much of the chaos that is now considered normal in the black community. And the problem isn’t one-sided because far too many of those very children were created on purpose by women who believed that a baby would hold onto a man who wasn’t that interested in them to begin with.
There are way more things to be critical of than Jay-Z’s possible, well most-likely spoiling of his daughter. As Arlene pointed out, we do need to focus our attention to the fact that there are too many black people and other minorities having children out-of-wedlock, making it difficult to raise children in a positive environment.
Jay-Z and Beyonce may just very well be that positive influence, like Barack and Michelle Obama, that Black America needs to inspire them to become positive role-models for their children. Despite criticisms of either artist, both waited until marriage to start a family. Beyonce isn’t just another baby momma to some well known ex drug dealing rapper. She’s a wife, and Jay Z is a black man who decided it would be best to marry the woman he had dated for several years before having children together.
Many black people look up to Barack and Michelle and look at them as an example for how the black family should be. If people look towards Jay-Z and Beyonce the same way, for all of the same reasons, so be it. We need more positive examples of black families anyway.