Just another column from an educated black man who doesn’t spare feelings or hang around men who don’t respect monogamy.
By: Mike J.
What if I told you that your man wasn’t sh-t because his friends aren’t sh-t.
I’m sure you’d only get angry and tell me that your man ought to know how to think for himself. That makes sense to a very large extent, but women make things more complicated than they need to be. Cheating isn’t some mystery tucked away in oblivion from any woman seeking an answer as to why it happens. A man cheats because he wants to cheat, but the likelihood of it happening will increase rapidly depending on who he is friends with.
If you don’t like one of your man’s friends because you think he runs through too many women, most likely your man shares the same aspirations when you’re not around.
Men with like interests usually travel in packs. The man that is mature enough to handle a commitment will prefer homies with the same outlook to keep the number of jump off opportunities to a bare minimum. The bachelor type dude keeps men around him who know how to smash easily, because it will keep the likelihood of meeting new conquests very high.
We influence each other to be good husbands, bad boyfriends, playboys, and college educated.If you ever talk to a man who’s been married for over 30 years, he’ll tell you that he had to stop hanging with his too bachelor friends. It’s not because we can’t think for ourselves, but we’d rather keep the temptation to the lowest of levels.
The way to truly identify a man is to take one good look at who he hangs around. Because in the moments that you are not around, it could very well be the type of guy he hangs around that determine the outcome.
Although your man might have good intentions, peer pressure is a b-tch.