Writer Believes A Big Butt Brings Forth Aggressiveness From Black Men

Does the backside of women draw out aggression and rough sex from black men? A writer claims so. 

By: A.J. Niles

Black women have a long-standing reputation for having voluptuous backsides that black men love and adore. This pursuit of affection from black men, and others has led women, of all races and nationalities to risk their lives and pursue dangerous augmentations. But is this affection from black men in reality just physical assault on black women?  One writer believes so.

A woman using the pen-name Metaphysical Goddess penned an essay entitled, “The Power of a Black Woman’s [Butt].” Metaphysical believes this aggressive behavior is a result of the way black women show off their bodies. By wearing clothes that do not leave much to the imagination and engaging in certain behaviors in clubs or parties, they actually encourage men to release their anger and frustrations during sex.

Here are some excerpts from Metaphysical’s essay,

You just want to stick a fork in [a black woman’s backside], so a man’s [penis] becomes the fork. A man will want to find a way to destroy it somehow, make it react somehow. Just like the Bubble wrap you find in the box of an electronics item. You have the URGE of wanting to pop each and every bubble, you will attempt to squeeze each one. You like the sound of the bubble wrap popping and “Lord help the bubble wrap because you will pop each bubble”.

The way that Black woman allow their [backsides] to be displayed and portrayed desensitizes men and they begin to forget the feelings and emotions of a woman. A man will forget that there’s feelings and senses in the [backside] and vagina that can cause pain and discomfort. At the same time many Black women attempt to translate this pain and rough sex into thinking that a man is so turned on by them and like them to the point they can’t help but aggressively handle them sexually. Unfortunately, they fail to realize that any [backside] brings out this aggression. But still, many women choose to rationalize their abuse, they would rather think their desirability brings out this side of men.

As a result of this aggressiveness from black men, many black women do not realize the damage being done to their bodies, according to Metaphysical. She later explains how women can develop painful cysts in their genital area, which can arise from the aggressive pounding.

Although the writer is aggressive in her tone, she does have a point. It does seem that both black men and black women are being programmed to look for and engage in aggressive, casual sex. From the music we listen to, to the television shows we watch; we are all bombarded with images of sex and these images do seem to bring forth a certain reaction of aggressiveness.

What are your thoughts?




  1. Call me crazy but I believe in this woman’s theory. The infamous back shot that many black women take in photos just seems like taunting to me. And that is one reason I don’t take those kinds of pictures. Posing in a way and dressing in a way that makes your booty look like it’s the main course at some random buffet doesn’t scream “I’m marriage material!” to me.

    1. Thank you!!!! I swear I’m so tried of seeing grown a– women taking those dumb a– back shot photos like they are still in high school. How are you trying to get married but looking like Superhead on your Facebook account?

    2. I so agree with you. We have to stop portraying ourselves as sexual objects in these pictures and screaming file when somebody mistreats us.

  2. When you get past the crudeness of the way she makes her points, they do seem kind of valid. But am I the only one who can’t have an orgasm by rough sex? I mean, who is “beating it up” supposed to be benefiting anyway? It certainly isn’t MY womanly parts. And men brag on it like it feels good. Idiots.

    1. Honey you ain’t said nothing but the truth! LOL! But this just shows the disconnect between men and women when it comes to sex. We have to start actually telling men that their sex doesn’t feel all that good.

  3. Wow. I thought I was the only woman in the world who doesn’t see the purpose of rough sex. It does not feel good! Can I see how placing so much emphasis on a big booty can cause some aggressive tension? Absolutely.

  4. Rough sex is necessary sometimes. But to pound her until the point of injury is never any good.
    And we need to place focus back on actual romance and intimacy in our relationships.

    1. But that’s the thing. Most men haven’t managed to be aggressive sexually and NOT hurt us in the process. So it has left a very nasty taste in my mouth. I avoid any man that still brags about beating anything up. How about giving women more orgasms?!

  5. I won’t even lie on here. I looked at the photo at the top, and I’m feeling incredibly aggressive right now. In fact, I think she just subconsciously asked me to beat it up. I love the booty photos ladies. Ha.

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