Will masculinity be completely lost at the hands of the metro sexual male?
By: Jason Perry
Wikipedia defines Metrosexual as a man who spends a lot of time and money shopping to enhance his appearance. The word itself is a neologism derived from metropolitan and heterosexual, which is typically a straight male who lives in a metropolitan area, who is extremely influenced by the urban culture around him. For the average man it takes about 20 to 30 minutes to get dressed for his day or social events, but for the metro sexual man this will be a long pain staking process that started the day before. Eyebrows cleaned, facial routine done, hair is finally doing what I want it to do, teeth whitened, fitted suite acquired, and pedicure complete. This is just a portion of the long check list the Metrosexual Man must meet before giving you the privilege of being in his presence. Although this prep time varies from man to man, in the eyes of some women I spoke to, “I don’t want a man who’s prettier than me” seems to be the consensus. Women have always had a strong influence in the way men dress and take care of themselves, but the real question is who influences women and is that influence slowly changing what we have historically considered to be masculine?
It’s no secret that some of fashion’s most provocative and ground breaking trends have been created by gay men. In the fashion industry the gay male is a must have, from Gucci to Coogi, the opinion of the gay male is highly recommended and highly desired. The term butterfly effect could be used to describe the role gay men play in the way straight men dress, and this may be hard for the Metrosexual to admit. In the fashion industry, most of our well known designers and stylists happen to be men and a lot of them are gay. Most women who go beyond basic in their attire more than likely have a gay best friend, who has dressed them according to fashion rules. The gay best friend is neat, brutally honest and always the most trendy person in the room. Women like this so they have started to buy clothes for the man in their life who may be just shy of neat and far away from trendy. Now men are doing it themselves which is putting woman between a rock and a gay place. Although the Metrosexual male is not gay, he has to constantly defend his fashion choices and grooming habits simply because he’s a dude who likes to look really good.
As intense grooming habits have gone beyond the gay man and have become the straight mans new tool to attract women, have the lines become too blurred to recognize the difference between a man who is gay and one who is just a Metrosexual? The term itself was first coined in an article by Mark Simpson in 1994, and since then it has been used to describe that guy you know who is not gay, but is clearly in touch with his feminine side. Unfortunately for men who fall into this category, women have begun to investigate that man, question that man more intensely and really contemplate if she can handle sharing bathroom space and the social spotlight. This type of male is a growing breed, but I don’t think we are in any danger of losing masculinity, everything must evolve into something more or something different and we are no exception. The Metrosexual male is a welcome friend and MVP in all things classy, stylish and tasteful; anything less would be an affront to his very nature.