Black women are usually accused of not taking enough risks in the bedroom. Is this a myth or does a little truth lie in the accusation?
By: Amanda Anderson-Niles
We have all heard the theories as to why any black man would be frustrated with black women, with the most popular misconceptions stemming from claims of our attitude problems, independence overdrive, and lack of sexual liberalism. Frankly put, there are black women loving black men, who still believe black women to be too reserved behind the bedroom doors.
One man who has asked to give his account anonymously, says:
“Many of the black women that I have dealt with looked at doing certain things in the bedroom,such as oral sex, like a chore. They did not embrace it. They felt like it was disgusting. They were ashamed of the idea of having oral sex with a man that things could potentially not wok out with.
Women of other nationalities that I have been with had a more liberated attitude towards sex. Not every black woman that I have been with has been conservative, but a majority of them were that way.
A lot of men believe that non black women are more willing to do nasty things in the bedroom. These are the things that we see on the television and on the internet.”
While the young man I interviewed still has plans to marry a black woman, he does feel that he may have to settle for a lack of excitement in the bedroom in order to have her.
What do you think? Are we as black women just not risky enough when it comes to sex? Are we a little too afraid to try different things in the bedroom and have we gotten to the point where we are behind women of other races when it comes to sexual liberation?
Speak on it.