Just another column from an educated black man who doesn’t spare feelings or understand why women think waiting 90 days would keep them from getting duped.
By: Mike J.
It’s not wise for any woman to think that waiting three months to have sex is like a bulletproof vest for disappointment.
I can assure you, most men will still dog you out after 90 days. Oh yeah, we’ll be whatever we have to be for 3 months just to have the honor of telling our friends we still managed to smash that chick with morals. It’s low down, I know, but women are naive for thinking that making a man wait for sex will change his character and make him a good man when he wasn’t sh-t to begin with. Where did y’all get all this naivete when it comes to dating? Wait, I know. From that dumb a– book you call the dating gospel, penned by a comedian who’s already on wife number three (Man Steve Harvey has y’all looking like y’all would take relationship from anyone). And whatever else bad advice you get about men comes from your permanently single girlfriend, the one who’s too much of an independent woman to even remember that she likes men long enough to become attractive to them. So we just keep avoiding her like she has a STD. Not because she’s “too independent.” But because she’s not pleasant or desirable enough to get away with her nasty attitude. Why do y’all keep asking the women who can’t really keep a man about men?
I digress. This article isn’t about how hypocritical these ” I don’t need a man, but secretly want a man sisters” are. It’s about women thinking that withholding bedroom action somehow weeds out all the bad guys. Well honestly, it doesn’t. Not all of them. I can’t even tell you how many times I’ve had men I worked with brag to me about smashing that church girl that claimed she was waiting until marriage. Man for these guys, smashing the Christian is like a badge of honor, when it ought to be a badge of shame. But shameless n-ggas do those kinds of things, and waiting to screw him won’t change the fact that he has questionable character.
I’m not saying you should just climb into bed with a man on the first date, but it’s important that women realize that a man’s character better determines how he treats you, before sex and after sex. Not the length of time you waited to sleep with him.
If he isn’t a good person, he’ll treat you bad at any time, so I suggest focusing on spotting out a potential’s character, rather than the amount of days you go without f-cking him. You’d be surprised by how easily a woman will dismiss the obvious signs of his bad character because they’re so anxious to get past the three month period their damn self. It happens all the time, and trust me when I say we know that.
Besides, just because a man waits three months to sleep with YOU, it doesn’t mean he wasn’t sleeping with HER while you were bragging to your girlfriends about how he has to earn it from YOU.
So should you wait three months? That’s your call. But remember that if he really wasn’t sh-t when you met him, he probably won’t be sh-t in three months either.
Don’t let your horniness get you into some trouble.