By: Taren Vaughan
Tamera Mowry-Housley and Tia Mowry-Hardrict were introduced to us as the lovable twins from the hit sitcom Sister, Sister. And even after the show was over, both Tamera and Tia have continued to find success in the entertainment business, Tia taking on the role as Melanie on BET’s The Game, a gig she gave up to focus on the reality TV show that she has with her sister. As far as their families go, both have much to celebrate, becoming mothers and wives. With all the joyous things going on with them, Tamera however found herself a target of racism on Twitter for allegedly shading Vice President Joe Biden. That incident has not at all stopped Tamera from sharing her thoughts on controversial topics. In an interview that she did with Ebony Magazine alongside twin sister Tia, Tamera was questioned about her marriage to her husband Fox News Correspondent Adam Housley and some of the things they practiced before they got married. Tamera responded by saying that they did not shack up before marriage or have sex before they tied the knot, their faith playing a huge role in the decisions that they made:
EBONY: Tamera you mentioned in an interview that you and [your husband, Fox News Correspondent] Adam [Housley] not only didn’t live together, you also remained celibate until you married last year. Why did you choose that route and do you have any advice for your fans who are trying to follow in your footsteps in that regard?
TAMERA: Adam and I took a break from dating for about a year. We missed each other and something was drawing us together, but more than that, we wanted to make sure that this relationship was what God wanted for our lives. [In order to know] if we are meant to be together, we said, ‘it’s got to be God’s way and not our way.’ We didn’t want to half-step anything [or have clouded judgment]. So our right way was the way we felt God wanted us to do it which was being celibate. We said to God, ‘This is who we are, I know you take us as we are, our faults, our fears, our joys, our hope as a couple and have your way.’
I tried the ‘missionary dating’ [in the past] where you have a person with a great heart who you think is perfect and wonderful except for this one important area that you try to change. That’s unfair to that person. That person needs to be who they are 100%. And it’s unfair to you. You don’t want to drag somebody to church with you. My husband wakes up on Sundays and says ‘Hey, are we going to church today?’ It just makes [waiting] all worthwhile. I dated guys who did not share those same beliefs and it was hard. There were many nights of heartbreak and crying, and that’s not what God wants for us.
But if you want to be celibate, definitely don’t live together [laughs] because that makes it harder for you. Have people around you to keep you accountable! Surround yourself with people who support your decision, because they’re only going to root you on. Make that covenant with God and with each other and just let go. God is going to see you through the difficult times. Whenever you’re feeling discouraged just pray together. Like I said it’s not going to be a perfect journey, but you just have to keep God the center of your relationship.
Do you think that a couple should not live together at all until they are married? And should they remain celibate until they make things official?
Speak on it.
I think what she said made a lot of sense. BUT I think people have to make the best choice for them. Yes, waiting for marriage would ideal for most, but it won’t always happen that way. So instead, I think people should concentrate on being in healthy relationships first. That’s just my opinion.
I wish people would sit down and stop trying to stand on soap boxes all the time. Yes, waiting for marriage sounds good but it won’t happen for most people. She probably has had sex before marriage before the celibacy, so what’s the difference?
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This is why most people prefer Tia…
But it sounds like they were having sex before they decided to “wait.” How much sense does that make? She’s so full of herself.
It makes a lot of sense for a couple that tried and failed, and decided to try again. Only a fool would do the same thing and expect different results. Obviously their belief system rests in some part of Christianity, and they decided to go according to the blueprint He laid out for us ALL. Every second is a chance for a new beginning, and I pity the person that would ever look down on someone else that is not only attempting to change, but also attempting to do things the right way.
I definitely understand the world we live in, and decisions such as these may not be “popular” or “normal” but I’m really surprised at some of these comments. When you know better, you do better. Period.
I agree with her perspective. I’m engaged, and waiting. It’s not easy AT ALL, but I just wanted to start my relationship and marriage off right. When you can be with someone and it’s not dependent on the physical, I think it has a higher chance of working out.
I’m so tired of this conversation. People act like waiting before marriage is crucial to a couple staying together. Not true! It’s way more to it than that.
She said the damn truth. The salty people are just upset that they didn’t have the courage to wait for marriage to have sex. If you met a man that would wait on you, you’d do it. The crazy things is there are men like that. It you had some patience, you’d see that first hand. But don’t be mad at Tamera for having the courage to do something you really wish you could do.
****THING not things.
Well said and I cosign with everything you said. I don’t see why people get so negative when people try to do things the right way.
She said the truth. Those who found anything wrong with it are most likely just jealous. Get your life.