Mo’Nique Supports Open Marriages Because of Slavery?

Mo’Nique cites slavery for her views on open marriage and she brought up how things were done before slavery in Africa.

She says:

“See we’ve been taught to have ownership. And that’s the Western way to do it. I’m not sure where you originated from, but I originated from this place called Africa. And what I know about African Kings…tell me about one of them that just had one wife? You know any of them?

“That’s where I originate from. So when we came here, we adopted other people’s ways. And that is called ownership. There was a time I was owned before. I don’t want to be owned. I just want to love you so much I don’t want to be taken by anyone else. But I don’t want to have ownership over anyone. We’ve been there before.

“We’ve been taught and conditioned to believe that if you sleep with anyone else, that’s the…that’s a sin, that’s adultery…that’s the most horrible thing ever. We’re human, guys. That’s all.”


Another tidbit, from the sound of the interview, it seems as if Mo’Nique isn’t necessarily into Christianity nor does she really believe in God but more so the universe. Mo’Nique goes on to say she doesn’t “know the call of God” when the interviewer asked her what’s the one question she would ask God.

You can listen to the full interview below:

2 of 2Next


  1. So basically she’s a hotep. They all talk the same and are always trying to talk down Christianity. Anyway. she obviously suffers from low self esteem. Being faithful/monogamous isn’t being owned. It’s a form of love and respect.

  2. She does way too much. Anyway, her marriage, her views. But for me and mines, we prefer to keep other people out of our marriage. We don’t own each other, but we respect each other enough to protect our marriage. And because we keep people out of our marriage in every way possible, we’re very happy. It also makes it super easy to stay focused on each other. More power to her though.

      1. I know a lot of the commenters here love MO but I can’t stand her. And every time she opens her mouth I realize why! Both she and Toya need an intervention. Fr!

    1. That’s what I’m saying. How is a man having multiple wives (and the wives aren’t allowed to do the same) not ownership as well? She’s delusional.

  3. It’s her life but marriage hasn’t been about ownership for a very long time. Not to mention, in those times, polygamy was very popular so she’s actually more in line with how it was in biblical times…which she’s against. The irony.

  4. But her husband is the one who gets the hall pass, not her. I’ll take her seriously when she starts to step out too. But for now it just seems like her husband did a great job brainwashing her.

  5. This is why women have to learn to love themselves because if not, a man will come and convince you that confidence is being cool with him sleeping around. Mo swears she so deep and enlightened because she’s agreeing to an open marriage. Right now you have Charlie Sheen out here talking about having HIV and here she is trying to shame monogamy. Disgusting.

  6. Her husband ain’t attracted to her so he told her this bs so she would be ok with him sleeping with other women. She’s hoping losing weight will change things but it won’t. I’ve seen this many times.

  7. My mouth was wide open til I saw the last paragraph. That ecplains it, she has no idea what covenant relationship is. Reading other comments, refreshing to see everybody has common damn sense?

  8. You know, sometimes I feel sorry for Mo’Nique and women like her, but them I realize she feels sorry for women like me. LOL. Anyway, it’s her life, her choice in how to run her marriage, but I think there’s something very commendable about two people who come together and decide they don’t need anyone else to be happy and fulfilled. That means both people are truly committed to each other and they don’t want or require anyone else to be happy. That is a true friendship, true love, and something I’m thankful to have.

  9. She sounds dumb……she can miss me wit this low self esteem a$$ bullshyt …..cuz if Imma give my dude a hall pass Imma give myself 1 too and that is when the relationship is ova cuz men that love u wouldn’t wanna share u and vice versa she is a dumb a$$ old bish

  10. Never liked her. She has made a career out of bashing other women just to turn around and be some man’s doormat.

  11. I truly believe people have to do what works for them but I can’t help but sense Mo’Nique has a lot of issues and lacks true self esteem. She’s been through a lot in her life and she’s expecting her husband to make her whole and what he’s really doing is breaking her down. I hope she realizes this one day.

  12. She just can’t see her husband is using her..he don’t even dig her like that so he talked her into being cool with him sleeping with other women…sad…

Leave a comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *


Discover more from Urban Belle Magazine

Subscribe now to keep reading and get access to the full archive.

Continue reading