Essence Magazine was able to get a few quotes taken for Meagan and Devon’s new book, and it’s pretty interesting.
Essence writes:
In our on-demand, express-delivery and microwave-meal society, waiting for anything, especially sex, can seem inconvenient. Yet growing discipline could be the key to unlocking lasting love and joy. DeVon, 37, and Meagan, 34, both credit their waiting season as pivotal in their journey and in strengthening their ability to be patient. For Meagan, it was a chance to know herself in new ways. “I learned self-control and loved myself in a more meaningful way,” she says. “If I could give God one of the most tempting areas of life, anything else is possible.”
The couple hope more singles consider saving s*x until marriage, especially in the Black community. “We need to start looking at how we date. We need to start talking about s*x in our community,” DeVon says. “We can start to consider another way to do this that will produce more peace and better health— spiritually, mentally and emotionally. We can put ourselves on a path to healing and reconciling relationships.” Though The Wait centers on celibacy, mastering delayed gratification has an impact on every area of life from finances to family relationships.
And Devon wanted to specify that celibacy shouldn’t be limited to women. He explains why men benefit from abstaining too:
Deciding not to have s*x before marriage has unique considerations for men and women. In the book, Meagan tackles common concerns for women from whether men are willing to wait to how to deal with meddling friends. DeVon breaks down society’s expectation of the hypers*xualized male. “Think about how many men who used to be on top of the world who can’t even get a job because they had no discipline in their personal lives. God gave men their s*x drive, but he also gifted them with restraint, wisdom and the ability to inspire,” DeVon writes. “As a man, if you can be disciplined in your s*xual life, there’s nothing you can’t do.”
“The Wait: A Powerful Practice for Finding the Love of Your Life and the Life You Love,” is due out this February.
Different strokes for different folks.
I think this is great advice. But I understand not everyone will agree. But what’s important is making sure you are in a healthy relationship. If it’s not healthy and it’s not the kind of relationship that uplifts you, it’s not a situation you should stay in.
Agreed.
Nope.
They are a cute couple. But I’m a little hesitant about telling grown folks what to do and not do with their bodies.
They really do inspire me. I have been celibate for a year now and it’s really hard. A lot of guys don’t want to date a woman they know isn’t going to sleep with them. I’m really hoping I meet a Godly man who can wait until marriage. I know I must be patient but it’s hard sometimes.
They seem to think God punishes people and holds back blessings for having s-x. I don’t agree with that at all. I think s-x can have negative outcomes if you’re not responsible and if you’re dealing with someone who doesn’t have your best interests at heart. People get divorced all the time. What matters is making sure you’re with someone who’s committed to making the relationship work and truly cares about you.
They are such an adorable couple.
Celibacy could be worth investigating. Practice celibacy and eliminate a number of crimes,STDs and divorces.
Add to this there appears to be strong evidence that transmutation of one’s sexual energy makes us more powerful. Do we really wish to be seen continuously as Black Breeding slaves?
Anyone interested in forming an organization to address these issues. I would be interested.
Dwight