By: Taren Vaughan
When you initially start dating someone, things couldn’t get any better. You enjoy the person’s company and spend hours on end conversing with them on the phone. It really starts to seem like you have met your perfect match. As time passes, the feelings that you once had for that person begin to change. You don’t have the urge to call them or go places with them anymore. Your interest level is slowly starting to decline. It’s obvious to you that your partner’s feelings have remained the same. But you know that yours aren’t. Should you tell your significant other about your change of heart? Or should you play along like everything is fine?
Playing along and acting like everything is wonderful is the absolute worst thing you can do for yourself and your partner. Why would you pretend like you’re happy when you know you’re not? That’s a lot of work and a lot of great acting that you would have to do.
Why is it so hard to tell people when your feelings toward them have changed? Scared that they will get upset with you?
There is always that possibility that your significant other will get angry with you for telling them your true feelings about them. Although people may get upset with you initially, they will respect the fact that you are being honest with them. It’s all about that one key word: honesty. If you are not feeling the relationship anymore, speak up. Don’t wait until you get to the alter to tell the person that you aren’t happy with them anymore. You are in too deep at that point. For those who “go with the flow” and continue to act like everything is cool when it’s not will find themselves in a world of trouble. Don’t put up a front when you know your feelings have changed. Always be considerate of the other person’s feelings. But most of all, be considerate of that person’s time. Don’t waste the person’s time because you wouldn’t want them to do that to you.
Over time, people can grow apart from each other. It may not necessarily be because someone was unfaithful or abusive or anything of that nature. It just simply happens like that sometimes. But if you claim to care about the person like you say you do, then you should officially break it off with them and not just walk away from the situation. Better yet, before you up and decide to leave the relationship, think about why your feelings have changed. Maybe if you communicate how you feel to your partner, you all could possibly get back on the same page again. But you have to speak up. As much as people claim to be mind readers, no one really knows what you are thinking except you. And when you do not vocalize your thoughts, how will your partner ever know how you really feel?
People don’t realize it but there is a lot of power behind communication. That one conversation with your partner could bring some real understanding to your relationship, making it stronger than it once was. So don’t be afraid to say what’s on your mind. If you are not feeling the relationship anymore, say something. Don’t leave your partner in the dark. Whether it be now or later, the truth will have to come out eventually. And I assure you that your significant other would rather you break the news sooner than later. Trust me on this one.