Mistress Syndrome? Lil’ Kim Says Biggie’s Mom Didn’t Really Know Him
We may love the Queen Bee, but could she be exhibiting the classic symptoms of the Mistress (Jump Off Syndrome)? Shots fired?
By: Amanda Anderson-Niles
Lil’ Kim is back on the music tip with a new nationwide tour backed by new management group Roc Nation, and a media tour that is keeping Kim in the headlines like she never even left the game. Fresh from the controversial Nicki Minaj female rap beef, Kim is getting back to the music and reminding her fans why they loved her in the first place. But when the interviews start racking up, so does the controversy. And when Lil’ Kim isn’t talking about Nicki Minaj, she’s most likely talking about Biggie, and addressing those pesky two decade old rumors involving her alleged role as Big’s mistress, her rocky relationship with his mother Voletta Wallace, and her ongoing beefs with the Junior Mafia click and old comrades deeply embedded in Hip Hop.
It’s no secret that Kim wasn’t thrilled with the Biggie Biopic that was released in theaters a couple of years ago. Although it was produced by P. Diddy and endorsed by Voletta Wallace and Faith Evans; Kim felt the story was inaccurate and embellished in a way that even Big wouldn’t have approved of.
During a recent interview with The Breakfast Club, Kim explained why she wasn’t too surprised that they got it wrong when it came to telling Biggie’s story on the big screen.
Her prospective was a disrespectful one:
“See, Big’s mom doesn’t know Biggie, and she barely knows Christopher. It’s the truth. “She used to kick him out daily. She did not care to know him, or get to know him during the time….she didn’t know him.”
I respect Lil’ Kim as a female rapper because let’s face it…she’s dope. She alone has at least 2 of the top 5 rap verses held by any female rapper that’s ever done it, and yes, she revolutionized the female rap game before Nicki Minaj even came into the picture. Nicki took it a step further by achieving cross over appeal, but Kim has achieved things lyrically that we can’t take away from her even today in 2012.
While I wish female rappers didn’t have to resort to crotch shots and over-sexualized images to get industry backing; the younger generation’s apparent dismissal to what Kim has brought to Hip Hop is arrogant and borderline ignorant.
Despite the respect I have for what she’s done in the game, Kim sounds like a straight up former Jump Off who still hasn’t gotten the memo of what her position really was. I say this for several reasons.
Jump Offs tend to think they see a different side to the dude they are creeping with that no one else is privileged to see. Every mistress needs to feel like they are important, so they begin to imagine that they are some gatekeeper to what a man really feels. They like to think they are their support system, yet the continue to remain a secret. But I would assume they feel this way because the man they are creeping with realizes he needs to make the jump off feel special enough to keep her in the picture.
Biggie was a charming man. And it’s not because he looked like Morris Chesnut; he knew what to say and how to say it to most of the women he encountered. It also didn’t hurt that he was a platinum record selling rapper, for most women attracted to that lifestyle, that’s an automatic boost in the charm department.
Kim also displays the common weakness of a Jump Off. She’s too loyal. Big was allegedly abusive and put Kim through a lot emotionally, and yet, she’s still playing a position she should have jumped ship a long time ago.
The comments she made about Voletta Wallace were way out of line, but when one examines Kim’s mentality, it’s clear she is still suffering from the same mentality she had in the 90s.
I for one just want her to talk about the music–the Nicki Minaj beef and Biggie affair shouldn’t be more interesting than the capabilities of the only female rapper to get 5 mics from The Source. Kim’s the first female rapper these young girls take a shot at, while looking for a come up; so she’s relevant enough that she should be able to talk about herself more in her interviews.
What are your thoughts?