By: Amanda Anderson-Niles
Things got so bad in Tina Campbell’s marriage that she actually asked for fans to pray for her marriage on Facebook, and it’s all because she was having a difficult time forgiving her husband Teddy for cheating on her.
But in a recent interview with CNikky, the talented Gospel singer now blames herself for her husband’s infidelity:
“I Tina assume full responsibility for the issues that I contributed to the relationship. I was controlling, talked too much. And you can never be heard over me because when I wanna talk I got the floor and ain’t nobody gonna get it from me until I give it up. Real talk. That was the way it was and I have to work on myself. You know what I mean? I was selfish. When we started having children it’s like, I forget that I have a responsibility as a wife. And I’m questioning you like, ‘Really, what you want me to do? I gotta baby!'”
Tina also says that she feels she made things bad by putting her children’s needs before her husband’s:
“Even though that’s sometimes what you’re faced with, that ain’t the right spirit to do it in. And what happens is, you’re going on and you’re busy and you’ve got children and you’ve got work. And what happens is your husband is last and you don’t realize that he’s last. And if he has a problem with being last you’re like,’Well, what am I supposed to do? You know that I’ve got a career? You know that I’ve got these babies, you’re the one that got me pregnant!’ You want your husband to be the man and to take his place, but because ‘I’m a strong woman, I’m a this woman and I’m a that woman’ we busy stepping on our man. Making him feel small. And you know what? I did that. And I take responsibility for that.”
I don’t think she should take full responsibility. Yes, she shouldn’t have forgotten to please her husband, but he is a man who does have control over his own actions and he should take responsibility for what he did.
She assumes full responsibility? Wow…so I guess he wasn’t wrong for anything then in her eyes. Good luck with that Tina.
Now that he knows his wife will blame herself for him cheating, expect him to do it again.
I personally don’t think she should blame herself for all that has happened he needs to shoulder most of it Not her
Times like this I’m glad I’m not married.
I’m not married, but I don’t think any woman should take full responsibility for her husband cheating on her. It is just telling men that they are not responsible for their actions and choices they make with their own bodies. That’s not the message we need to be sending.
Sigh…I just can’t today. Let me get my butt out of this post.
She sounds like a fool to me!he really got a dummy he cheated because he wanted to period he had choices
I don’t agree that it’s all her fault. She can only take responsibility for her own actions and her husband has to take responsibility for his.
Girl bye! That man cheated because he wanted to and you stayed because you wanted to. End of discussion!
Just sad. I hate to see women letting a man’s terrible choices weaken them. She knows deep down inside she is not to blame for her husband cheating. Yes, she could have maybe sexed him more, but he didn’t have to cheat. There’s no excuse for someone cheating on you.
Those things may contribute but I wouldn’t assume full responsibility. I’m not married so I can’t say a whole lot on the situation. Hopefully he’s doing the same. That’s a pretty big burden to bare alone
I respect that she can admit what she did wrong, but a real man takes responsibility for his own actions. So even now she’s saying she didn’t let her man be the man, she’s still not allowing him to be the man now by taking full responsibility for bad choices that he made. That’s just my outlook on all this though.
He’ll cheat again. And what will she say then?
she will resort back to the same attitude..looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooool..
I can’t stand it when women try to get all deep and give essays on why they stay with cheaters, when the truth is they are only staying because they are too afraid to leave and start over. Most women will stay in bad marriages because of fear. The thought of moving on scares the hell out of them.
I’m not married, so I can’t speak much on the subject. But I don’t think she should act like this is all her fault. Her hubby cheated because that is what he wanted to do and he was wrong.
I swear sh** like this piss me the f off. Noooo Tina you are fav…Good thing I dont have access to a computer. I would have gone ham on this post…She is really putting too much much lame on her self.
Excuse my language in advanve but she is allowing him to be a p*ss
I have lost so much respect for MaryMary. That reality show has hurt them to me. I don’t even watch it even more. Now Tina with this mess. I can’t co sign on a woman causing a man to cheat. Mature people talk it out or decide to move on.
While her stance is admirable, he is a man. He did what he did because he wanted to do it. Nothing more nothing less. I get what she’s saying but there are a billion degrees between cheating and not cheating. He chose to cheat. She didn’t make him do that.
Her husband cheated because he was selfish. Cheating is never an accident, mistake maybe, but NEVER AN ACCIDENT! I was raised COGIC just like Tina, and her response is something I became accustomed too until I left. I recall this lady telling us that you should never leave even if he cheats and or beats on you, because you knew he was like that before you married them. Smdh that’s a conversation that would require a novel instead of a post. Thank God my parents taught me better. Although I am no longer a Christian, the one thing I took away from them is that your body is a temple for God, and if that’s the case, why let someone defile it. Her husband didn’t care about her feelings, he was being selfish and disrespected her temple. The temple God is suppose to dwell in.
Just because you didn’t always put you husband first before everything and everyone doesn’t mean that he was right for cheating and you pushed him to do it. He has to take responsibility for what he did. Maybe her actions made him think about going elsewhere to get the attention and sex he needed or thought he needed but HE made the decision to step out on he, just him alone. If he can’t take responsibility for his own actions and she can’t out of her own damn way and let him be the man that she so desperately wants and thinks he supposed be to and for her then they will not make it and the all the prayers in the world won’t save this marriage and get it back to how its supposed to be and better than what it was before this happened. But i wish them luck, strength and patience cuz honey, they’re gonna need it. This will not be resolved easily and quickly and the sooner the realize that the better they’ll be.
Cheating is a choice honey. Now that you blame yourself, he is going to do it again and tell you well it’s your fault. I cheated because you’re not around much blah blah blah…
Blaming yourself is just wrong hun. There is only one of you. You had to take care of your kids and that’s what you did. He actually should’ve been there for you
You do not know that, returning to cheating is not the norm. Encourage her instead of putting her down. She has looked at herself and is ready to take the responsibility for her actions. She is right she is tooo intense and very strong. That is a mountain to climb for a man. She taught me so much. I still hear her say “I am broken”. I didn’t even know those words existed but I knew about the feelings. I think they are a dynamic duo musically and great reality people. THEY WERE SO REAL, I loved it. It is nice to hear Erica and I love Help. However, (dont be mad) they are awesome together, ok separate. They are a perfect blend and I believe God has blessed them as a duet not a single. They each bring their unique flavor to the group. I was so glad to hear Tina say, I would have a problem with Erica leaving the group. You made it together, it is ok to jump out there and make a few dollars on your own, but the CD would have been awesome had she allowed Tina to do background. I have had the opportunity to look back and all the years I claimed innocence I really wasn’t that innocent. That is what Tina has done for me. I truly learned from the women and their honesty is up there. May God continue to bless them, ALL OF THEM and bring happiness to the house holds. Love you so much.
Blame yourself, sorry honey you have it all wrong. Kids didn’t ask to be born and yes they need more than an adult. There’s always counseling he could have considered before jumping into bed with someone. JMO
She never said she assumed FULL responsibiliy – she is taking responsibility for her action – as a mature married adult woman would if they are comitted to making the relationship work. They stood before God and are now seen as one. Admitting that she played a part in the things that caused him to make a bad decision is putting them on the path to fixing the problems. They are a team-you can’t turn you back on your partner -especially when there is so much at stake.
What I heard was that she takes full responsibility for her part in her marital issues. She is saying that she is standing accountable for “her part”, not that it’s “her fault that he cheated”. Big difference folks. Yes her husband cheated, but (as in any marriage) there are some other things going on also. There always is stuff in marriage. I’ve been with my husband for almost 25 years. It is not always a bed of roses. You have problems but if you love your marriage, love your family being together, want to honor your vows, enough you work it out.
Nope. She’s blaming herself because nowhere in her quotes did she talk about what he did wrong. The funny thing is she said her husband has had several different girlfriends over the years. I think he’s still cheating too. He doesn’t sound like the kind of man I would want to work things out with. He’s a chronic cheater.
He also slept with her best friend too. Smh.