By: Amanda Anderson-Niles
Rapper, actor and activist David Banner talks often about the current struggles of the black community and what he feels the black community needs to do to progress, and his views can often encourage debates.
And while it’s clear now more than ever that racism is still a major problem, David seems to think the one thing we need to do to move forward collectively is to repair the connection between black men and black women.
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I agree but he needs to be telling this to his brothers.
He’s delicious.
We have one powerful family that has paved the way for a new generation… The Obamas.
I see his points.
Go get all the black men who become famous & date outside their race …. Then holler at us about repairing a relationship….
He stay speaking the truth.
I don’t always agree with Banner but he’s right about this.
I love this message because it’s holding both genders accountable. We need more people to spread this message.
I definitely agree with this.
Why is he saying this in Essence? He needs to give his soliloquy to a black men’s magazine instead. We black women are being rejected by eligible black men for countless self hating reasons… Being too dark, being black, having nappy God given hair, etc. It’s up to the men of any group to stand up and fix the major issues within it, don’t preach to black women to do a man’s job….
I agree! Everything starts from within the family. If we don’t have a strong foundation, our rate of failure when we attempt anything is likely higher. If we didn’t grow up with that, we can create our own. I understand the dilemma of black women and men, we all see it everyday. But if we apply our own wisdom and knowledge and influence to those around us, we will be stonger. Who cares if the next person is doing it or not! I’m responsible for me. I think one issue of the new generation is having instant access to those who they admire or want to emulate, not fully understanding that this is simply an image that person wants to portray. We see this everyday. I grew up wanting to be like my mother and my aunts. They all had a little something I wish I had. Too much social media influence, not enough family influence. We are discouraged, but we have way more power than we know. Black women have always been the backbone, behind the scenes and on the frontlines; look it up, and don’t believe the hype that says you have to look a certain way to be desired. Who cares what a small percentage of weaker men do when they get a little change in their pocket. Real men recognize real women, and believe it or not, there are many out there. Most are not in the club, bar, the spot, the dopehouse, or on the ‘gram. They are often where you most want them to be, at work, church, school, or home, lol! I really like this statement from David Banner.
I always tell people,when we have social talks.We as black men and black women are disconnected from each other.She is taught to compete with her brothers and male cousins as a youth/teen.Which falls into her relationships.(competition with her man) And he is taught to think about self first,everything else later.And neither are taught to be a husband or a wife.
Until Black men and women stop talking trash,downing each other as a race,we won’t go nowhere in this society.
I think it’s true that men and women need to repair the relationship.of course one must do for self but also what can both do to make the relationship stronger and better. yes love matters and there’s alot of other things needed to hold it together as well.sacafrice and compromise and have balance and don’t play the blame game for we all the blame by the choices we make as individuals
Its some well balanced minds, aside from the typical bitter women. Banner noted its issues of how WE view and treat one another. Not just a MAN issue, or a WOMAN issue, but a blemish on the fabric of all of us. Black men and women have been made to conflict with one another since slavery so that the families could never be well-founded.
David Banner Thank you. Finally somebody (man), said it. I believe our our race needs to force each other to get back to basics. There is a natural order if things, A balance that is inherant in the world and within humanity that Blacks in this country were deprived of because of Slavery. We never had a full experience in family. It was stripped from us in so many hainus ways. The residual effects are almost a part of our collective DMA. Black Men and Woman can and must rebuild our Strength as a race from the inside out. This starts with aspiring for and holding onto a family unit. A 2 parent household with everyone sharing the same last name. Men have got to stop running from their responsibilities as men and take care of the ONE woman they choose to love and raise the children they create together. Woman have got to learn to let a man be a man and trust him to be the head of the family unit. Woman and Men must respect the relationships/marriages of others. Stop having affairs when you are in a relationship. STOP going after married people. You wouldnt want that to happen to you. Start treating you brothers and sisters tge way you want to beb treated. The man is the head and the woman is the neck and neither can function effectively without the other. We are functioning less and less effectively as the centuries have passed. We have systemactically passed this example of deterioration onto our fatherless children. If we do not stop and change, this cycle of erosion will continue to destroy our strength, future, spiritual connection and love for ourselves….
I would love to meet him
David is always trying to tell someone what to do. Its getting old already. Just shvt the fvck up and lead by example. Im sick of this dude.
Don’t tell us something we already know give us working solutions on how to repair it.
Respect his words because their TRUTH!!!!