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Shay Johnson Says Iyanla Vanzant is Disrespectful & Has a Smart Mouth

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Shay appeared on “Iyanla: Fix My Life” with her family.

Love And Hip Hop Miami” star Shay Johnson appeared on the season premiere of “Iyanla” Fix My Life.” Although she and her two brothers went on the show to talk out the issues that they have with their mother, Shay was put in the hot seat too. Not only does her mother have an issue with her, but so did her brothers. All of them shared the same sentiment, which is they feel as if Shay can be very disrespectful. And she’s a bit reckless with her mouth.

In fact, her youngest brother Emjay Johnson revealed that he hadn’t been speaking to Shay for about six months due to this.

When Iyanla Vanzant told Emjay and Shay’s oldest brother Dr. Joe Johnson to tell Shay how they feel, Shay became angry. Although Iyanla told Shay to just accept their truth and she’ll later have her chance to speak, Shay snapped. She ended up telling her brothers that they are entitled and think they know everything.

Shay and Iyanla clashed.

Iyanla called out Shay for not following directions and an argument ensued between the two women. Eventually, Shay stormed off and Iyanla followed her. She told Shay to just trust the process, and Shay then said, “F*ck your process!” The argument continued and Iyanla told Shay she was acting like a fool. After Shay left, Iyanla told the producers that she’s done. And Shay won’t get another moment with her ever again.

Despite Shay’s messy departure, her brothers and mother Sandra were able to have a breakthrough. Sandra became aware that while she stressed about being a single mother, her children just wanted more love and affection. Shay was brought back later to speak to her family, but Iyanla once again refused to sit down with her.

After the episode aired, Shay discussed the situation on social media. And she didn’t hold back on how she feels about Iyanla now.

Click next for the details. 

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Amanda is a TV junkie with a passion for all things reality television. She's from Decatur, GA.



  1. Nola

    November 1, 2020 at 12:31 pm

    Shay was the disrespectful one and Iyanla didn’t owe her anything after that. People like Shay think they can keep going around disrespecting people and there won’t be consequences.

    • alecia

      November 1, 2020 at 4:03 pm

      This is true! I think Shay needs to find herslf she is very lost….

      • Ms. Dawn

        November 1, 2020 at 5:20 pm

        A woman knows when to shut up and listen , you don’t have to respond to everything .

    • Me

      November 1, 2020 at 4:56 pm


      • Natalie Barnes

        November 1, 2020 at 9:25 pm

        Shay: silly girl tricks are for kids,grow up and stop being a you ,you person.Your negative actions caused terrible reactions and your child like mentality will never see that ,until your truthful with your self.

        • Florence Prater

          November 1, 2020 at 11:28 pm

          I seen it twice. Shay don’t want to be corrected. She wants everyone to agree with her. She’s very disrespectful very. Shay have a lot of growing up to do. All she had to do is shut up let them tell their truths then she’ll get her chance. She got a lot of her ways after her mom. Don’t want to acknowledged and accepted the truth about yourself. All I can say is grow up Shay. It’s you who was disrespectful.

          • Cheryl

            November 2, 2020 at 3:14 pm

            Shay was very disrespect

    • Ms. Dawn

      November 1, 2020 at 5:18 pm

      Exacly , there’s no excuse for a grow woman acting like that .

      • Fail

        November 1, 2020 at 6:55 pm

        Shay us trash, been trash since flavor of Love. She needs to sat her butt in a corner somewhere

        • ChiTown78

          November 3, 2020 at 12:43 pm

          Exactly! She is ignorant and always will be ignored because she don’t see the error of her ways. Shes a little girl that hides behind her wigs make up and body and would never grow up. She has no substance and in the last 12 years of being in the public eye, she hasn’t grown at all. Yes her mother is to blame to some extent, but at some point as an adult, you had to take a look at yourself and acknowledge you’re faults and try to change them and not blame everybody else for pointing out how f-cked up you are.

    • catherine townes

      November 1, 2020 at 5:29 pm

      Amen. I saw it to. Stay was disrespectful to her and God knows it. All that lady was trying to do is help her with her nasty mouth. God ain’t sleep, Stay need to watch herself, she’s headed for disaster. She really been hurt.

      • Sparky

        November 2, 2020 at 4:17 pm

        Oh course Shay got on social media. She needs to stay off tge garbage dump of the internet ” facebook* *Twitter”. Better yet just stay off the internet and learn manners

    • LaTonyia McDavid

      November 2, 2020 at 12:54 pm

      I agree with this comment. There is disrespectfulness in this young lady. Her mother is a strong single black woman….didnt hold any punches. So focused on keeping the food on the table…lights on etc… She was spoiled as a child. Yes, tough love endures a set of changes that will implement the after mass. She will be her own down fall, the very same in how she was her own rise up! Pay attention people. Dung scattered out in the fields….

    • Tina

      November 3, 2020 at 8:43 pm

      I totally agree with you
      Shay is far from being a therapist or life coach so let Iyana do her job.

  2. Wannie1208

    November 1, 2020 at 12:31 pm

    Shay act like she never watched Fix My Life ….Lmfaoooo Iyanla say what she means and means what she says and she’s never gonna back track. She’s gonna always make it hot for you to whether you like it or not and no one is sparred for getting called out no matter who brought who to the show. She must have thought Iyanla was gonna allow her to come on there and let her tell how her mother and brothers are in the wrong.

    • Joan Brown

      November 1, 2020 at 4:01 pm

      Shay have some nerve talk about how some people act she forgot about how she act on Love & Hip Hop and all that she needs to check herself if she has a f*****-up attitude especially when she can’t get the guy

    • Ms. Dawn

      November 1, 2020 at 5:24 pm

      Shay , wasn’t ready for the show it takes a real grow woman to be ready to do the work and she wasn’t. Because I hope she doesn’t think that her behavior is cute it isn’t .

    • catherine townes

      November 1, 2020 at 5:34 pm

      Shay seen the show before, especially when Tamar cut up too. I bet that’s why she was acting like that.She saw Tamar. Why go on a show showing your a-s.

      • Wanda Holmes

        November 2, 2020 at 1:54 pm

        Tamar said Iyala could be rude too. I like her but she does show off for the cameras. People forget Tamar reacted because her sexual abuse was revealed on that show without her prior knowledge or approval! Tamar says something she’s not believed. Someone else come after her & say the same thing and their believed!

  3. Miss Jones

    November 1, 2020 at 2:15 pm

    Some people just can’t be helped. 😒😒

    • Lauren

      November 1, 2020 at 9:13 pm

      As soon as I saw that the first Episode featured a former Flava of Love, Charm School failure, I had to tune in. Shay doesn’t disappoint if you’re looking for a train wreck. I hope she apologizes soon.

  4. Natalie

    November 1, 2020 at 3:13 pm

    Shay could’ve fixed it all if she had the correct approach and Iyanla could do something else with someone else that would listen and understand.
    Shay has a superiority complex. Go against what she feels then she’s ready to fight. It’s all about her and Iyanla tried to tell her that it’s not but she’s going to say F-CK YOUR PROCESS to Iyanla. Really 🤨? Well that was F-CK YOU IYANLA!! Now ain’t this the pot calling the kettle disrespectful. Anybody else confused 🤷🏾‍♀️? Shay can disrespect others but no one better disrespect her. Good luck with that.

    • Me

      November 1, 2020 at 4:59 pm

      Amen! Lord knows you told only truth with that one! The girl has issues. Can’t handle it when that smoke comes blowing back at her!

    • Stephtacular2

      November 2, 2020 at 10:46 am

      Shay is gonna end up screwed up just like Tamar! Let her self distruct. Life will go on for the rest of us. F^*& your attitude Shay. You called Iyanla, she didn’t call you! Glad she’s done with you, as are we!

  5. Me

    November 1, 2020 at 4:56 pm

    Naw, Shay just wanted Iyanna to kiss her a-s and she wouldn’t. One can tell she’s use to being a bully. Bullies always back down when called on their sh-t.

  6. bonitahill hill

    November 1, 2020 at 5:36 pm

    We all have family issues. As a pay. Major l find the main key is listen. We can all sing together but not talk together. All families need some healing from a coach, pastor, counselor or someone. What my advice to communicate effectively to your family. We only get one family so make the best of it. Please apologize to Mz. I because your family needed it. It’s about communication and healing.

    • Wendy Jones

      November 1, 2020 at 8:03 pm

      Shay was very, very disrespectful to Iyanla. She is a liar. She only wanted to her way. She will never learn anything if she doesn’t shut up. Beauty fades over time, and her ugly spirit will take her down real quick. She needs to shut up and listen. Shay if you stop flapping your lips, listen, you may get over your issues.

  7. MiMi

    November 1, 2020 at 5:40 pm

    Shay acted like a foolish child when she ran out having her tantrum cause she couldn’t say anything. Iyanla told her she doesn’t get to facilitate the process after her telling her she was willing to do whatever to make things better, not. How dare she come back as if Iyanla had to do what she wanted her to do. Iyanla has taught me from past shows and books to not allow others to treat you with disrespect and there’s a certain way to talk me. That’s precious like gold!

    And Shay that’s not ego, it’s walking in Queen footsteps and your actions are of a jester. It would be very adult if you apologize simply because she is your elder and came to try and help you. That’s a real woman with true respect for herself. I expect better of you. Very disappointed in your actions.

  8. K

    November 1, 2020 at 7:12 pm

    Shay sweetheart you need to check yourself. You cannot except constructive criticism. Your brothers stated how they felt. You were immature and ignorant. In the beginning you stated you wanted love and to give love. Unless you are will to listen and hear and take responsibility for your bad behavior that will not happen for you. no one deserves to be subjected to your cargo of rotten baggage. You were very disrespectful to Ms Vanzant, she was trying to help you and your family. You are a strong beautiful young lady but it will take more than that for you to get what you want to be happy. Family is everything if you can’t get it together with your family you will not respect boundaries with anyone. You owe Ms Vanzant an apology. You have the audacity to say she disrespected you look at the show again. Your mother took responsibility now you should since you said you get your behavior from your mother. You are a beautiful family on the outside. I will pray you become beautiful on the inside and stop being so angry because your anger and ignorance makes you ugly.

    Many blessings to you and your family.

  9. Tiffany Herbert

    November 1, 2020 at 7:19 pm

    Oh well Shay finally met her match she got alot of nerve saying that Iyanla is disrespectful & have a smart month Iyanla tells you the truth rather you like it or not but now you know how it feels Shay whenever you direspect people that didn’t deserve it ran off like the coward behind chick whenever she was confronted about the truth Shay still have alot of growing up to do & mature more period

  10. Shaq

    November 1, 2020 at 8:29 pm

    Why do people go on this show and think it’s going to be sweet. Iyanla is tired that’s why this season is her last, I’m going to miss that show because that’s Oprah number one show on that network but I don’t blame her for leaving.

    • Felice

      November 1, 2020 at 9:33 pm

      Shay knew how Iyanla was but still chose to go on the show. Yes therapist use different approaches, but you don’t get to decide that process or facilitate it. She would have had your opportunity to speak her peace, but acted like an entitled brat. Very disrespectful. Healing can’t happen with that attitude!

  11. LeVal

    November 2, 2020 at 8:34 am

    The pot talking about the kettle

  12. Renita

    November 2, 2020 at 10:58 am

    If you’re going to air your hot mess life on national tv, then get something from it. Shay came into scene 1 with her guards up and never listened, never tried to consider anyone in her family. It was all about Shay. And what does she get from all that temper tantrum behavior? She gets to go home to her hot mess life. Oh well.

  13. Priscilla

    November 2, 2020 at 2:23 pm

    Please grow up. You don’t have wisdom. It is better to be silent and thought OF as a fool than to speak and remove all DOUBT

  14. Michele Reggans

    November 11, 2020 at 11:53 pm

    Iyanla did warn her… She said that Shay was not going to like her. Shay said,
    “No that wasn’t going to happen.”Iyanla’s wisdom was talking. Shay couldn’t read between the lines.

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