Discussion: Should You Take Back an Ex if They Cheated?

If your spouse or significant other cheats on you with another person, should you take them back?

By: A.J. Niles

Many relationships unfortunately deal with the situation of a partner stepping out with another person. As tragic as this is, could your partner not only be forgiven for committing such a heinous act, but should you remain in a romantic relationship with this person?

On one side of the coin, you have those that feel that if a person cheats on you once, they will most definitely do it again and therefore you have to move on. No man or woman should have to go through with having a partner that feels that they can have multiple sex partners and do as they please.

On the other end of the spectrum, you have those who feel as if a person could change their ways and learn from their mistake of cheating with another person. Depending on the reasoning of the transgression, the couple can work through the pain of cheating and make their relationship stronger. They especially feel this goes for women that cheat. This is due to the belief of if a woman cheats, it is due to her partner causing negative things to happen in the first place. So by working through what made her look to the arms of another man, the couple can keep things together and make each other happy.

So what do you all think? Would you remain in a relationship with a person that cheats on you? Let us know below.




  1. Me personally, I wouldn’t take someone back who cheated at this point in my life. I’m engaged now, and I am only in a better place emotionally because I finally managed the strength to walk away from the guy who kept cheating on me. I was forgiving and tried to make it work, but I feel that with most people, they cheat because that is who the are. It’s not my job to change people. I moved on and ended up getting engaged to a guy who is faithful. And he’s that way because that is who he is and what he believes.

  2. I would move on. Staying with a cheating man is kind of like cosigning his behavior and letting him think you’re really okay with him being shady. My momma always told me that when people show who they are the first time, believe them! And that is advice that will go a long way in relationships.

  3. I think I would work it out. I am in the minority I’m sure, but I don’t think human beings were wired to naturally be monogamous. It’s just hard to do and goes against nature. I’m not an advocate for open relationships, but I wouldn’t cut things off with someone completely for doing something that feels natural to most human beings.

    1. Life is about choices. People make choices to be faithful and they make choices to cheat. I have to respectfully disagree with you on your theory.

  4. From a man’s perspective, I don’t encourage any woman to stay with a man who hasn’t been faithful. Yes, being faithful may not be natural for all, but we have to keep in perspective that neither is being a good person. You have to wake up everyday and make that choice to be a good person. But by staying with a man who’s cheated on you, you’re only telling us that you’re okay with that. And yes, we will do it again because your actions said you’d stay. When it comes to men, we are our actions and not our words.

    1. But isn’t that most men though? You guys are known for being cheaters. That severely limits the dating pool if we dispose of all the cheaters.

  5. I would forgive her but I seriously doubt if I could ever take her back. Taking her back would make me seem spineless.

  6. Been there, done that. And nothing good came out of it. I’d advise everyone else who hasn’t not to waste their time and take someone who’s cheated on you back.

  7. I get where most of y’all are coming from, but you have to remember that some people can change. I’ve changed and I don’t do some of the things I used to and I understand that it can be the same thing for others. Let’s not be so judgmental.

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