By: Jason Perry
So you have found the perfect person, and you feel as though you can’t breathe unless you are near them. The way they smile makes you all gooey inside and you cannot seem to understand how you have been living this long without them. You have everything in common that is possible for two people to have, and you see no problems on the horizon. This person is already considered an in-law within your family, and your mother is excited to see them eat her special dish at family functions. And in the words of Tom Cruise “Nothing mattered until you met them.” You have visions of yourself putting a ring on it or saying yes to a bended knee proposal. As a result of your mental and physical passion for them, you decide you can’t take any more holding hands, kissing and cuddling on the couch; you need release and your body needs it now.
Everything you have felt for your lover has finally been put into action, and you engaged in what you knew would be the most intense and emotionally charged sex you have ever had. But when you roll over you realize you could have had a V8, maybe two. You’re in-between a rock and not so hard place and you were really just moaning as a bed cheerleader, so you can get to sleep a little faster. You know you love this person and everything about them, but the thought of having to endure terrible sex is daunting and love alone may not be enough to satisfy you. But of course you are not that superficial, or blunt enough to let them know just how many sheep you have counted while having sex with them. But if you love a person and you can see yourself with them long-term, you must let them know that you are not pleased sexually. Although we are human and we need physical stimulation, it’s important to remember that you can be physical with most anyone, but not everyone will be in love with you and your better sex conversation must be had, regardless of how uncomfortable you are. If you get nervous just flash back to how you felt when you were moaning with your eyes open or thought that you need to get up early to be in line for the new Jordan’s.
Contrary to popular belief, sexual performance can be taught, some may need remedial guidance and your patience must not wear thin. But to be loved and cared for is something we all need, and fostering that love should go beyond a couple private sex classes. Some of you may be thinking that when your body is yearning for physical connection, the last thing on your mind is your lover’s big brain or huge heart. But you will also be the same person saying “I just can’t seem to find love” when you had it and let go. I’m not saying it’s going to be easy and it will require some sacrifice, both physically and mentally; but if the love is real, it’s worth it. You have to have a can do attitude going in if you want a different outcome, but if you see this person as a passerby you may not want to invest. In the words of Tina Turner ‘What’s love got to do with it?” Well when you think long-term and consider what you will need in your old age, love is monumental and even vital for mental health. Have an open mind and let love conquer all and if that doesn’t work, clip your coupon for some V8.