By: Amanda Anderson-Niles
Kandi Burruss made a recent appearance on “Bethenny” and the “Real Housewives of Atlanta” star dished about her annoyance with the backlash she’s getting about her engagement to Todd Tucker and just why she feels its sexist for people to call her man an opportunist just because she makes more money.
Kandi says:
“Well me personally, I’m a hustler. I like a person with a hustle mentality like you’re the type that’s going to get out there and make things happen because I see so many people date someone because they think, ‘Oh he has money.’ And then he loses the money and he doesn’t know how to get it back. But you have to be a hustler to know how to get the money again, again, again and again.
“When I met Todd he was already doing well for his self before we met each other. So it really bothers me that people try to play him like he was some dude on the street that didn’t have a job. He’s doing well and was doing well before I met him. “
On why she thinks calling Todd an opportunist is sexist:
“See that’s the problem. People automatically feel like a woman has to have a man who makes more money than she does. But I don’t feel like it’s all about who makes the most. I just feel like as long as we’re good and we’re comfortable, he can handle what he needs to handle and we’re good. Why do people feel like it needs to be leaning totally towards the man’s direction as far as finances? Because I’m sorry, I’m always going to go out and get more money. That’s just who I am as a person.
“So that means I’m going to limit who I can talk to if I’m just saying, ‘Oh he has to be doing better than me.’ I’m always going to get mines.”
Mama Joyce even called in and said that she is no longer getting involved in Kandi’s business regarding her relationship to Todd, so it sounds like things may finally be coming together for the couple.
I really get what she’s saying and completely agree. Todd had a job when they met and still has one now despite them being engaged. He has never displayed any signs that he’s lazy or that he wants to live off her money. It’s ridiculous that in 2014 as we watch women making more steps to becoming more equal to men, we still have some people that live by old, sexist rules that say women need to be taken care of financially and they better dare not bring in more money than their mates. Smh.
Is she going to keep talking about this tho? We get it. Kandi, you think Todd isn’t out to get your money but the truth is you won’t know for sure until years from now. Just hope and pray that you’re right, and your mom is wrong. Now move on already.
She makes really good points, but she can’t change the mentality of people who have been raised to think a certain way about men, women and money. All she can do is just learn to be happy regardless of the criticism.
If he’s signing the prenup, she’s straight. LOL.
Kandi cares too much about what other people think.
Agreed. If she’s happy and trusts Todd, nothing else really matters.
Exactly! Who cares what other people think including the mama. Sometimes it’s your family that’s out to destroy your relationship more than the people on the outside because they don’t want you to be happy or have what they long for. When you’re doing good for yourself and have a mate that’s good to you and you’re both doing good it’s always people, especially family, that will try to destroy that. Kandi just needs to live her life and eff what people think.
She sure does.
Well I can understand her being concerned with her mom’s opinion. I mean if you’re close to your mom, you’re going to value her opinion above anyone else’s. I think she’s more upset that her mom isn’t feeling Todd, and the public’s criticism is just the cherry on top so to speak.
Yep.
I’ve been married for five years and I really can relate to what Kandi is saying. When i met my husband, my own friends were skeptical about him because they didn’t like that I was making more money than him. For that reason alone, they said he wasn’t marriage material. Forget the fact that he has a degree, is God fearing, treated me good, respected me and was loyal…nope he didn’t make enough money. Anyway, I married him anyway, and he got his graduate degree and makes more money than I do NOW. And this year, we’re starting a business together. So really we are no longer looking at ourselves as individuals, we’re building our own empire TOGETHER. Don’t be so quick to judge someone over how much money they make when you meet them. If they have drive, they can become great if they have the right woman in their corner. Michelle Obama helped make Obama who he is and please believe he was broke and wearing beat up shoes when they first met. Now they are sitting in the White House together!
I love this!!!!!
Just awesome. Thank you for sharing.
Best. Comment. Ever.
Yes! Preach Sis!
I feel what she’s saying but she’s not all that supportive of Todd’s career. When he told her he had a job interview out of town, she cried and talked him out of it. But then in the next breath she asked him to help her with her dream of putting on plays. She’s selfish and I think this won’t end well if she doesn’t support Todd with his dreams as much as he has been supporting hers.