Halle made an appearance at 2017 City Summit and Gala which was hosted by Entrepreneur Magazine, and agreed to do a very candid Q&A session in which her personal life was not off limits.
Entertainment Tonight writes:
“I have learned to deal with three failed marriages, which has not been easy, especially when there’s children involved,” the 50-year-old star said during a candid Q&A at the 2017 City Summit and Gala, presented by Entrepreneur magazine, at the USC Tower in Los Angeles, California, on Saturday.“[As] women, we go into marriage thinking it’s going to last forever and that this is our prince on a shiny horse,” she continued. “That’s what fairytales taught me as a kid … and I’m kind of anti-fairytales today.”
“But we go in there with that hope, so when it falls apart it feels like a huge failure and a huge disappointment,” she added. “I’ve often felt guilty and responsible. I’ve suffered a lot of pain and anguish.”
Berry’s recent divorce from actor Olivier Martinez, with whom she has a 3-year old son, Maceo, was finalized in December. She was previously married to baseball player, David Justice, and singer, Eric Benet. The actress also has an 8-year-old daughter, Nahla, with model Gabriel Aubry.
Berry, who was the keynote speaker at the event, also shared that her heartbreak has led to many learning lessons.
“In every one of those situations, as hard — and sometimes embarrassing — as it was, I learned so much about myself,” she said. “All of those relationships were necessary for me. We all come here with lessons that we have to learn and those relationships provided me with lessons that got me to where I am right now. For that, I’m grateful. But it has been hard. It’s been a difficult part of my life.”
She needs to never get married again. Marriage just ain’t cut out for everybody and that’s ok.
She just picks the wrong men time after time. Self reflection is what she needs.
Too many women have a Savior complex when it comes to men and marriage. Some just need to learn to live with and love themselves first. And if necessary admit that marriage isn’t for everyone.
Marriage is hard. So you have to make sure it’s really something you want to do and that you’re ready to commit to that person. I think a lot of people get married when they aren’t really sure and they get divorced as a result. You have to be sure and willing to do the work.
I hope she uses this time to find out who she is and what she really wants. That may be an issue for her, it seems she gets into relationships expecting these men to save her but that is something only you can do for yourself. Marriage is hard enough but even harder when the people involved don’t truly know who they are.
Halle is a beautiful woman but until she figures out why she keeps picking toxic relationships to be in, being single is best. But she’s not alone. There’s a lot of Halles out here. You live and you learn.