By: Amanda Anderson-Niles
Gabrielle Union may be dating the love of her life, NBA star Dwyane Wade, but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t remember what it’s like to struggle in the dating scene as an independent woman. Although she seems to have found the proper way to balance an acting career and love, she thinks she now understands more why independent women are having a hard time finding a partner. Despite her rumored home wrecking past, Gabrielle has some advice for single women in how they can find love of their own.
And according to Gabrielle, it’s probably smarter for the older single women to go after the younger men.
In a recent interview with Just The Fab, she says the following:
“I think [women] struggle” with giving power to men.
“My girlfriends and I are very independent. We’ve been doing it WELL on our own for a long time, and sometimes that’s hard to give up a little power — to sort of acquiesce to another person and let somebody else lead sometimes — or all the time.
Men who are in our age range also have a lot of options, and maybe sometimes it’s easier to go younger with a lot less expectation.”
Do you agree with Gabrielle Union?
I wish this whore would shut the hell up. She’s a groupie, not a relationship expert.
This!
She makes good points until she suggest dating younger men. They aren’t usually the best option. Women just need to date men who have something to offer besides sex. It’s that simple. And why does it always come down to a man needing power? I don’t think anyone should have power over anyone else in the relationship. It should be a partnership.
Well she did have some points. But I do think the power argument is old and tired. I agree with the poster above me, power is dangerous regardless of who has it in the relationship. I think respect is what is really needed for people to stay together. And independent women are usually alone because either they have he wrong taste in men or they just have nasty attitudes. It’s not any deeper than that.
And it’s funny that you talk about respect, because I think most people think respect is the release of power. Putting someone else before yourself because you respect them. That’s what I think is important.
But why does a man need to have power of a woman? What, are we still living in the 1930s? I don’t understand.I never got that. I need someone to explain that part to me.
I need them to explain that to me too because I hasn’t seen one marriage in 2012 that a man runs it completely. Most married people make decisions TOGETHER.
Gabby basically just explained her own situation. She was able to get her way with Dwyane Wade because he wasn’t the smartest. But now she feels like she is in a position to give relationship advice. LOL, whatever.
But she stole her man from his wife. What can she possibly say to single women? She’s not that smart herself.
Umm does she not understand that she’s a single woman her damn self? Bish, you ain’t married either. Get off your damn soap box Gabrielle.
I really can’t stand this h-e. I want her to sit down and shut up. This relationship really has her feeling herself. Her tweets are even more annoying.
I’m engaged and still not understanding the whole “let the man have power over you” thing. I honestly never understood that. I thought a relationship was about TWO people. TWO sets of NEEDS. Two HEARTS. Etc. So why does ONE person need to have all the control? I think independent women are single because they think they don’t need a man. And because of that, they don’t attract any decent ones. Independence in itself means you don’t need anyone. And relationships seem to only work best when two people understand they are better with the other person in their life. So it’s not really about not giving someone power, it’s about acting like you don’t need someone when you really know you do. That just doesn’t work.
I agree 100% with everything you said! It’s not about power, it’s about thinking they don’t need a man! When you think like that, you won’t be able to get one!
I’m really tired of this chick acting like she has the secret to how to keep a man when I heard she stole hers. It’s getting really old…
Shes like 40 and isn’t D Wade in his early 30s? It’s funny how she is talking about women needing to give up their power, but she’s dating a younger man so she can keep hers. It’s always been known that older women like to date younger men because they feel like they can have more power. She ain’t slick.
When she gives advice on how to steal husbands, then I can say she knows what she is talking about. Stick to what you know h-e.
This tramp. It’s amazing how you chase professional athletes for years, and then when you get one, you’re the Mother Teresa of relationship advice. Girl BYE.
LMAO at some of these comments! I don’t think there’s anything Gabby can do to change her reputation at this point. Crazy.
And to say the same women who are listening to her get their relationship advice from Steve Harvey, he nor she can’t TELL ME NOTHIN…
“and sometimes that’s hard to give up a little power — to sort of acquiesce to another person and let somebody else lead sometimes — or all the time” > So did Dwyane LEAD her into having an affair too? -_-
Hate all you all want too, cause at the end of the day while you are hating on social media about a woman you think you know from “info” you got from different blogs she is living her life n u r going to live yours. Calling someone out their name is like calling urself one, womens!
Oh im sure she somewhere slicing her wrists over a couple of nobodys stating their opion of her.
Gabby, is that you? Because only Gabby would be delusional enough to think anyone needs to “hate” on her. The only thing we “hate” about Gabby is how she could start dating a man who was married. Don’t get mad that women aren’t too fond of a woman who had an affair. I don’t care how crazy people want to say D Wade’s ex wife is, I’ll believe a wife before I believe a woman who had a terrible slutty reputation for YEARS.
Umm Meek, if you’re on here defending a celeb you don’t even know, then you don’t have much of a life either sweetheart. IJS.
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Wow. Never knew it was cool to believe everything you read. How do yall know what happened with Gabby and D? I’ll wait.
Sad to see Gabrielle Union engaging in the silly “single women are a plight” narrative. I honestly expected better from her.
Last time I herd anything about this woman she was sleeping wiht someones husband so…
I have been with my husband for 9 years. While I would agree that you do allow the other to lead at times. It’s a two way street. I do what my husband says and he does what I say. Respect to me means knowing how to take turns being in charge knowing when to relinquish the power and when to take it in your hands. To me it seems the biggest problem pople have today is that they are lazy in most aspects of life. People do not want to put the effort and time needed into having a lasting and happy relationship. It seems to me people wanna jump ship at the first sign of trouble and or only one of the people in the relationship is ever willing to do the work needed to make it last. If your machine(meaning you) runs on pride and being in control all the time of course you will be single that’s the schematic for a singular life.
I Love Gabrielle Union, she’s the BEST! I think her comment about giving up power
Is being blown out of context. But hey feel free to have your opinions
Because if yall knew the truth yall wouldn’t be making these comments! Have fun
Gabrielle Union and Dwyane Wade are HAPPY n GOOD!
Girl BYE. The fact that you said Gabrielle Union is the BEST is proof alone that your comment can’t even be taken seriously, and it shows that you don’t even know the TRUTH your damn self. I’m convinced Gabby pays people to write comments in her defense, considering that it’s only done by 3 people on every black blog out of the many comments that slam her. I know she reads the blogs because she just tried to sue one not too long ago. If she is sooooo happy, why does she care so much about what us “miserable” people on blogs think? Exactly.
I agree. It is hard to let someone have a little power. Most older men I find are truly stuck in their ways so I can’t blame any woman who would go after a younger man. Being in a relationship, you have to be willing to compromise and not be selfish and I’m not ready for that so yes I plan on staying single for now.