A lot of folks took to social media to accuse Amber of promoting promiscuity, but she disagrees completely with that argument:
You also did a parody video where you took pride in the Walk of Shame.
I think people feel like I’m promoting promiscuity or I’m telling these young girls to go out and have s*x with multiple people, which is definitely something that I’m not saying at all. I wouldn’t be an advocate for that. But I do feel like men can go out and they don’t have a walk of shame. They do whatever they want or whatever they feel like doing, or a guy can be vocal about getting head, but a girl can’t be vocal about it—giving head or vice versa—because it makes her look slutty. Meeting a hot guy and having a moment just because you want to, people frown upon that when it comes to women. So I wanted to make a video. I’m not saying that you should go out and have a one-night stand, but if that’s something that you decide to you, just live your life to the fullest. It shouldn’t be any double standards.
Amber knows better than anyone that texting someone risqué photos of yourself can always come back to haunt you in the social media era.
So she tells women via her book not to give in to the requests:
There’s one part that I disagreed with about not sending nude photos over text because I think it can be liberating. And everybody does it. But your thing is don’t ever send nude photos.
Don’t ever, absolutely not. You can disagree with me until all your nude photos are all over the internet for the entire world to see. And then you’ll be like, Damn I should’ve listened to Amber, I should’ve never did that. [Laughs] I’m telling you, girl. I lived it and I’m very proud of my body, and I was very young when I took those pictures, but at the end of the day it was a very devastating time for me. I had just met my husband at the time. I was very much in love, I’d just met his family, and I was getting ridiculed to the point where it really made me depressed.
She sounds dumb as hell calling herself a bad b-tch. Ain’t she in her 30s? Yeah time to grow up and have some respect for yourself.
Well to be real a lot of women are calling themselves bad b’s now. I don’t understand it but to each its own.
Yeah I don’t think it’s empowering to refer to yourself as the derogatory terms people label you with but whatever makes her happy.
So is being called a woman or queen not good enough? I like Amber but I don’t get this whole bad b thing.
Ain’t nothing positive about calling yourself a slut and a b-tch. Sorry not sorry.
That book is going to flop.
I try to respect other people’s opinion without passing judgment – even when I don’t agree. However, this broad has completely lost me by saying “they’re going to call us that anyway.” Ummmm…”us” who?! She refers to herself as a b*tch because she expects men to?!?! Furthermore, she accepts it?!?! This entire interview sends warped messages to young females who look up to her, and old ones who are somehow, still lost. I’m in support of her quest to make a name for herself and have her own…but this isn’t her arena. I hope she has someone in her corner to keep it real and tell her rabbit a** to do some self-searching and try again later.
She sounds like a fool.
So much delusion.
The more Amber talk about feminism, the more it’s painfully clear she really has no idea what feminism is. Smh.
What in the world is she talking about? *giggles*
There are so many people in the world who, for years, did not know who they were (many still don’t) because they accepted labels people put on them. As real women grow, it is a true work to shed labels and discover who you really are. You have to shed friends, as well as places and things that don’t line up with your true destiny & calling. For some, just that process alone can take years, before you get your self-respect and courage to be you. Imagine if no one answered to labels or peer pressure, and how much time was saved by not having to shed skin that wasn’t yours to begin with. Now that’s being a Grown Woman, forget a Bad B***h. I agree, she is lost. The demographic that follows her are some of the most in need of loving themselves, she is just hindering people by trying to get women to identify with a label that was created by those who truly do not know what self-love is. Sad, really.
Amber may need to stick to talking about Kanye, Kim and Wiz because that first quote was ignorant as hell. If a man is going to call you out your name anyway, then why are you dealing with him? It’s better to learn to love yourself and only deal with men who respect you.
I see somebody been watching the haves and the have nots. Smdh