Melody Shari is frustrated with Martell Holt’s lack of respect for boundaries.
“Love & Marriage: Huntsville” fans have a lot to say about the recent episode. As we reported, Melody Shari and Martell Holt are having some issues in their co-parenting relationship. Martell sued Melody for full custody of their children. And he said he felt like he had to do this because Melody has “20-something” different babysitters. Melody has denied this. She pointed out that Martell just doesn’t want her gay brother to babysit. So Melody firmly believes Martell is being homophobic. Regardless, Martell didn’t anticipate that Melody would be willing to fight back in court even though he initiated the custody battle.
To no surprise, the custody drama has only worsened Martell and Melody’s co-parenting situation. So Melody is no longer inviting Martell on family vacations these days. And he also was not invited to the birthday party that Melody paid for and planned for their two daughters.
Interestingly enough, Martell was told well in advance that he would not be allowed to attend. Regardless, Martell decided he was going to show up anyway.
On the recent episode, Martell strolled up into the event demanding entry. However, Melody and others tried to remind him that he was not invited to the birthday party. Melody also said that she is following the court order which stipulated that she and Martell take turns on special days and holidays. And she didn’t cause a scene or disturb Martell when he had the children for Christmas and Thanksgiving last year. So Melody just wanted the same respect.
Twitter users and Melody Shari responded to OWN’s controversial tweet about the situation.
Regardless, Martell was not hearing any of this. He said he was entitled to be there because he is the father. This led to a moment in which he became irate and screamed at Melody’s mother Miss Vanessa.
Melody stood her ground and told Martell she would be calling the police if he refused to go. But Martell told her to call them because he wasn’t going anywhere. Eventually, Martell left. And the scene has a lot of LAMH fans talking on social media. Interestingly enough, many of them seem to think that one of the OWN Twitter accounts crossed the line with a recent tweet.
The OWN employee in charge of the OWN Unscripted Twitter account reposted a gif from the scene and tweeted, “Martell really don’t give a **** 🤣 He said ‘Call the po po.’ #LAMH”
Not only did Twitter users call out the employee in the responses and mentions but Melody responded, too.
She tweeted, “But did he get her later that day or nah? Hmmm.…and not #givinga****” isn’t funny AT ALL. Sorry.”
It’s all fun and games with these producers and networks until someone gets hurt and the lawsuits start coming.
What the f-ck is funny about this? OWN learned nothing from Tim Norman I see. F-cking weirdos.
I really don’t care about the tweet. What I do care about is that Mariah was overjoyed seeing her father at the party and that’s what counts the most. Both of them needs to stop being petty, your children see that and you’re teaching them that it alright to be that way to people. Even though Martell wasn’t invited by Mel, I saw the happiness it brought to the child and that’s what counts more. He could have stayed and y’all could’ve stayed away from each other. Mel and Martell have to do better by their kids, or they may be the same way when they’re adults. Get it together and right your kids are your legacy, more than your businesses. They’re watching how you navigate your life and adulthood.
Kandi already told us how Carlos operates. He likely told Martell to crash the party and cause a scene. That is why he didn’t even have a gift. It’s obvious that Carlos/production and OWN favor Martell over Melody. Oprah should be embarrassed to be associated with aiding a man with abusing and antagonizing his ex wife. I won’t be sad when this trash is canceled.
This really isn’t a good look for Oprah 🤔
Did anyone notice the frown on Tanks face
I’m so thankful I wasn’t raised to defend toxic black men like some of you do.
If they keep enabling Martell, I’m going to stop watching.
Between all these ignorant takes from other black women and OWN’s support of Martell’s actions, I have no idea why I’m still watching this show.
I guess OWN wants another boycott to start. Who is running that Twitter page?
It’s okay because karma never misses and eventually all who enabled Martell will get what they deserve. I can’t wait for Melody to quit so I can be done with this show and the entire network.
I was in a toxic marriage had 7 kids. I left with nothing and came up. We did occassions separately after yhe divorce it was best for the kids. Yall haters of Melody actions is bias cuz thanksgiving and christmas martel had the kids and Melody did the kids holidays in january nobody comment on martel actions then. We must not be watching the same show. 🤔🤔 plus OWN producers allows maryel aggressive to continue. This is a toxic working environment that want stop.
I love that most of these comments were written by people who have common sense. Divorced couples do not typically do birthday parties together. And if they do, they are in a good space which Mel and Martell aren’t because of Martell. Stop being toxic, black people. You would not tell your own daughters to accept what you expect Melody to accept. And if so you’re horrible parents.
I’m a child of divorce parents and my parents were both there for certain celebrations that included me & my sister despite them being divorced and moving on with others. It can be done in a cordial, respectful and peaceful manner. It depends on the emotional maturity of the parents. In my opinion, these people will always have to have some contact at some point in their lives bc they share children. Learn to be cordial, respectful and a peacemaker. Learn to compromise. It’s not always about you but, consider how your child/children might feel. If one of my parents wouldn’t have been at a special event or celebration I’d question it as a child not understanding the dynamics of the parents but, wanting to celebrate with both parents. It’s not always Martel that’s petty, belligerent, uncooperative and disrespectful. Melody is equally to blame for not always coparenting in a way that’s beneficial for the children and the relationship she and Martell need to have peace. Many people constantly want to crucify Martell for him cheating and, I agree it was completely horrible and he should take accountability and responsibility for that.. which he has done on many occasions. However, I do see him trying on the show and it’s not always received well. He’s human and at some point we all need to be forgiven and move past the mistakes we’ve made. Even, Jehovah God does that so, how is another man going to hold back? Isn’t that why Jesus died for us? I’m sure there will be many people who disagree with me. Please don’t address me.. I’m not interested. I didn’t address any specific person on this chat so I don’t expect to be addressed either. Thanks ✌🏽
Well this the end of road for me. I’ve been through a toxic divorce and I know what a toll it takes on your children. My ex husband walked away, remarried in 5 months and cut my minor children out of his life. I asked and sometimes pleaded with him to continue his relationship with our children. They were 12, 14 and 20 then and that was 14 yrs ago and it changed their lives completely.
No matter how you feel about your ex, you have to maintain and be committed to co-parent for your children.
I don’t agree with Melody Shari regarding this decision. I was in a marriage with infidelity and my ex is bitter because I didn’t stay with him, so he did this madness to our children. They are responsible as adults now. And have success in their lives, they have degrees and my daughter is active duty military. The Emotional toll and pain that still exist in their hearts regarding their Dad not having anything to do with them is an Atrocity!
It breaks my heart to see my children go through this Trauma. I know exactly how this is gonna turn out for the Martell and Melody’s children.
So far as LAMH goes I’m Done!
It’s Shameful Behavior!
I’ve come to the conclusion that most of Mel’s supporters are younger, educated and perceptive with high emotional intelligence. Those who side with Martell are older, less educated, and grew up with very outdated perspectives on gender roles. I’m older so I know a lot of older women tolerate a lot “for the sake of the kids.” So they are triggered to see Melody move like this. Melody is the strong woman many of our friends, great grandmothers and grandmothers weren’t. I am so proud of her. And it warms my heart to see that younger black women and men refuse to accept what my generation and previous generations said was normal.
Melody’s haters: Melody isn’t putting the kids first because she wouldn’t let Martell crash and ruin the birthday party she planned for their daughters!
Reality: Melody is putting the kids first by not allowing Martell to keep disrespecting her and doing whatever he wants to. Doing so is teaching these kids that they can say no and they don’t have to be in bad situations just to make someone else feel good. I’d say that is amazing parenting. Y’all need to tell Martell to put the kids first because he never has and that is why he lost his family. He’s an awful dad but unfortunately some black people have such low standards they think he’s dad of the year.
I don’t always agree with the people who regularly leave comments on here but I really love that most of y’all will ride for any black woman who is being abused and mistreated by a trash a-s man. It’s a real sisterhood for most of us. That’s dope.
People need to be real, this man came to his daughter’s birthday party with no gift for the girls. How does this make him such a good father? Melody said half of the time he does not even get his kids. Some of these women will take anything from a man just to say they have one. Please women show more respect for yourselves and your kids.
You put a white woman in this same exact scenario and the show would have been shut down asap. Security would have stepped in and everything. Producers would have fired Martell. H-ll, he’d lose opportunities. She’d get way more support as well. I’m not surprised it’s a so-called black network doing this. Black women shouldn’t have to explain common sense things like boundaries and adhering to court orders. Shout out to the intelligent black people on here. I appreciate you. I don’t want to watch anymore honestly. I can support Melody’s other projects.
Martell cheats on Melody and these producers and ignorant fans tell her to work it out and stay for the kids. Martell has multiple violent and scary outbursts, producers and OWN cut out the scenes and tell Melody they did this for the kids. Melody follows the court order when it’s Martell’s time with the kids but Martell interrupts her time and producers and ignorant fans tell her to just accept that for the kids. It’s a pattern at this point. Black people will pretend they care about black kids conveniently when a black woman is dealing with a horrible black man. It’s just a way to control us and when that doesn’t work, they pull out the Christianity/Jesus card. I’m so glad women are waking up to the bs now.
One of the worst things a woman can be in this cruel world is gullible/stupid. The world isn’t kind to us when we don’t make the best choices. We pay for it. Melody is no longer the fool Martell and the audience were introduced to and it angers him a lot. I suggest Melody takes the Ciara route and has the court assign them a neutral party they can communicate through. Some men will never agree to be respectful coparents. And you just have to let the court handle them. Martell will never change sadly. He’s been this way his whole life and his parents failed him. Melody was very smart here. I would have done the same because I refuse to be bullied by anyone.
Melody did the right thing. Anyone who doesn’t like it can kick rocks in flip flops. Lord forbid Martell ever puts his hands on her bc these toxic people would blame Melody for that too. Black women have to do what is right for us no matter who doesn’t approve bc our community doesn’t value us as much as they value black men. That’s insane because the stats show a lot of black men are dysfunctional and harm our community.
It is very sad that people aren’t able to express their opinions or perspective on this site without being disrespectful, rude, belligerent and fierce to how someone else feels. It’s clear many have not been trained how to express themselves in a proper way. That’s why I stay off of social media.. people are simply ignorant and unable to have a civil discussion. Smh 🤦🏽♀️.. By the way people.. this is a tv show.. it’s edited to make each person a character. It’s “reality” to an extent but, we don’t know everything that transpires outside of the cameras. It’s entertainment.. remember?! 😑🫣🤭 You don’t know these people personally nor do they know you.. 🙄
No!!! You are wrong! Martell was absolutely wrong for showing up after warnings in advanc he was not invited. A child loves both parents n is always happy to see them. A court order is in place. He disobeyed it. And was NOT invited. Yelling at Mel’s mom. No!
I agree, he was totally disrespectful
Martell has a sense of entitlement that a lot of black men have. Melody has to follow the rules but he doesn’t have to. I didn’t think it was wise for her to invite him on that trip. He’s a narcissist and you can’t give them an inch. The kids do not come before Melody’s safety and well being. Especially when Martell has never put those kids first ever. Welcome to the real world. You do wrong and you deal with the consequences. Stop coddling black men. Most that are in prison system now are there because they were surrounded by enablers so they never learned accountability.